Lou: Not offended in the least and this probably has more to do with "Crowd Mentality" than with any kind of "indoctrination". While trying to live and raise ones family "by the book" also realize there is a free will involved.
Your free will is included indeed, but this reminds me of a little debate that I had with a friend of mine a while ago.
A little background: she is Lebanese and so is her boyfriend. I saw the two of them for drink during a football game. Was it the World Cup or the Euro - cannot remember (soccer).
And basically, I asked him something along the lines of "I know that Lebanon is a fairly liberal country as far as the Arab nations go, but tell me, does a teenage girl really have a choice as to whether she wears a burka or not? Or is it her father's choice?"
And the girl told me immediately that it was not her own choice. She didn't have to wear it because her father decided so, but many of her friends had to.
So really, what is the extent that you would tolerate you children from deviating from the book?