Starmaker: No. I don't like assholes coopting my problems and my victories. It's not nice telling me when I'm dying of pneumonia that I'm suffering for
a purpose and it's somehow
good no matter what happens. It's not nice telling me when I recover and win a fucking marathon that I won not because of my own perseverance and the help of my friends (hey there, Companion Cube!) but because they cast a magic spell.
In practice, religions have a wide array of devices to prevent the fallacy of de-responsabilisation. When they "thank god to have sent you", they thank you. When they claim that "help yourself and the heavens will help you" they push you to act. When a car runs at them, they step aside instead of praying. They don't "tempt the devil" or "test their god". All of these make behavioural rules (neither more nor less followed than by their secular counterparts) that put back the responsabilities of good and evil upon individuals, even when they are framed as "agents of god/devil".
And the ritualized wishes of prayer are an expression of care which, without replacing acts even in religious minds, should matter at a symbolic level. Atheists also express wishes to each others (and "hold their fingers" or whatever little good luck trick is demanded from them), every one is subjected to magical thinking one way or the other (whispering to the dice, or guilt-tripping oneself for angry thoughts before the unrelated accident of their anger's target). For a reason. It helps dealing with randomness.
And don't even get me started on symbolic efficiency.
Starmaker: I don't like assholes coopting my
history. I don't like Orthodox maggots munching on the corpses of war heroes. I don't like being told a million dead and a million wounded doesn't count because my home city was
really saved by a macrocephalic fairy. It's not
nice.
Secular maggots coopt history and munch on "hero" corpses just the same, making them symbolic figures of this and that, sacralizing them their own way, and planting their flags on them.
Starmaker: a US Christian complaining about intolerance is super rich.
We are not "in America" and neither is America. Do not see countries as homogeneous blocks because of global statistics. Whether the OP is telling of the feeling he gets from this forum, from "the internet", or from the region he lives in, or the social circles he inhabits, it is still relevant - and interesting if you expected the oposite : the fact we have a christian bringing this up, rather than an atheist, means that for some reasons an atheist doesn't feel like having to bring it up here. This questions the current evolution of the balance, in which contexts. Other social phenomenons hint at the succesfull secularisation of societies, and the steady loss of ground of religious beliefs (notably in gender politics).
Plus, it is a two-ways query. Demanding "tolerance" on both sides.
Starmaker: And the believer's personality doesn't matter.
It is the only thing that matter. Or else you are judging a person for something irrelevant to him/her. This works exactly as nationality.