All of the Infinity games have optional auto-pausing toggles that are available for certain triggers. Spotting an enemy, spotting a trap, when characters take damage, that sort of thing. It's a wonderful optional feature for old men, such as myself, that might be a bit slower keeping up with real time elements. I'm wondering if this sort of thing is even possible with the Aurora engine, as I've seen zero mods for anything like this.

AFAIK, no. Unfortunately.

You have to pause yourself whenever you encounter enemies, or you're almost dying, or when you found trap.

At least on vanilla version. I don't know about mods though.