I'm playing with the Widescreen patch and just about every fix out there, but as soon as I move the map I feel like I have to rub the tears from my burning eyes.
The game has this really weird pixellated fog of war instead of the smooth shading in Baldur's Gate, is there any way of making IWD use this too?

Run the "config" utility from the game folder or start menu folder for Icewind Dale. Under the "graphics" tab check "use 3D acceleration". You should now have smoothly shaded fog of war. For some reason this is disabled by default but I have never, ever had any problems with it.

Thank you so much :D I tried everything but I never even saw that >.<