I've known this girl for like 3 or 4 years, and her boyfriend is woman hitting pussy. And we have been fooling around, I am not afraid of him, I'd like him to actually swing at me. I told her myself I wouldn't let up if he swung at me. I can tell she wants to be with me, but doesn't have the courage to tell him herself. I told her I would stand right beside her if he swung at her, he'd have to hit me, and that would just piss me off more.

This video encapsulates how I feel after reading this.

Lol that is funny, but it is pretty serious, I like this chick and i'd rather not her put up with an abusive asshole.

Talk to someone truly knowledgeable on the subject. I'd call one of the many available hotlines, and ask how you can help a woman friend to escape an abusive relationship. Hopefully, they'll give you a much better picture of what concerns she may have about leaving him, and allow you to be more helpful than simply offering to pummel the bastard. (Not that I object to your present course of action.)

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My (inexperienced) gut says that helping her to escape her current relationship and forming a new relationship with you should be two separate things. That is, help her out without expectations, let her stand on her own feet a while, then she'll be free to choose you from a safe and considered position, rather than just running from him to you. (I certainly don't mean to imply anything negative about you here. Just hoping she'd still choose you once her head is on straight. Good luck.)

"It is only when a mosquito lands on your testicles that you realize there is always a way to solve problems without using violence " - Confucius (well not really, but still)

Don't go looking for a fight I say. People like that are not worth getting yourself in trouble for. If he's abusive as you say then she needs to dump him, end of story. Perhaps best she does it in a public place, and by herself so as to not agitate him any further.

Honestly, this is something for the police to handle. There's no telling how far an abuser will go to remain in control and the police are the best bet for providing a meaningful level of protection.

As far as dating her goes, don't. If she hasn't figured out how to deal with the current situation, the last thing any of you need is to throw more gasoline on the fire than is absolutely necessary.

Maybe in the future when things have died down, you can try dating, but I suspect that her dating somebody that he knows is just going to make it worse.

I'd be very careful about the situation if I were you. There's nothing cowardly about not rattling a wild animal's cage. If that lady is really worth it to you, stick up for her and yourself as you build a future together. If you're just into it to get into her... well, a short fling isn't worth going to prison or a hospital.

That crazy dude might have more feelings for her than you do at the moment, and if so that could make him a very dangerous person. Don't live in fear of other people... but at the same time NEVER EVER underestimate anyone. You'd be surprised who can throw a heavy right hook... or have a pistol in the glove box of their car.

I was in your position once. I had a girlfriend with a crazy stalker ex boyfriend. He got rough with her one night when I wasn't there and she ended up whooping his ass. Later he stole her car and threatened her. A few months after that, she and I broke up. Would it have been worth it to put myself in danger to support not only a girlfriend that could obviously handle herself, but also a girl I ended up breaking up with anyway? Things make more sense after you've calmed down and had some time to think about it. So think about it. Use your head, not your dick. Your dick will get you into a heap of trouble and not know how to get you out of it.

And if all that is too complicated, then just keep a simple rule of survival in mind: Never go to stupid places and do stupid things with stupid people. Heed that lesson and 90% of your problems will go away.

Understandable, but are you certain that she actually wants to leave him behind and be with you?

Some chicks are crazy and want to be fought over, and usually when a woman stays with an abusive type, it's because it's hard-coded into their brain from their childhood relationship with their father etc., which causes them to return to those situations and be attracted to those types of guys in the first place.

I feel... hungry... for some reason.

I'm making popcorn. Anyone want popcorn?

Not sure why some women don't realize that it's illegal for guys to do that. Likewise in reverse. Get the police involved, and restraining orders. Also, if you're thinking of going after him just remember The Godfather. :P

Your relationship isn't honest. You are "fooling around" behind the scenes.

If she cared enough for you she would dump his sorry ass.

Because of this be careful how you handle the situation, she could just be using you as a crutch and until she makes that break, you will never know for sure.

I knew a beautiful girl in a similar situation and the amount of times she went back the scumbag was unbelievable, it was like she couldn't live without the violence or the adrenaline or something, it wasn't the tenderness and compassion for sure.

Sorry if that sounds uncomfortable, but its an objective view.

Good luck however it turns out because apparently you are very fond of her.

Don't judge a situation until you know the full story. There might be more to it than you know. Woman do like to claim innocence a lot more then we like to admit. If she is not willing to do anything about it than it's not worth the hassle.

Here's some texts that made me feel a bit better about myself.


yeah true that...one of my favorite qualities of you...youre not a prick


a slut mebee...but not a prick

^^ is what I have learned from similar situations. It is easy to pass judgement on everyone involved in this and I bolded the part that has been most relevant to my experiences. Starting a relationship out of dishonesty seems to always have that relationship end in dishonesty.

How do you know she isn't hitting him and he's hitting her back? Have you seen evidence of it or it just her word? If you knew he was hitting her why didn't you call the police or an organization that deal with domestic violence?

I'm not trying to have a go at you or anything just some more information would be helpful with deciding how I feel about it.