Disclaimer : I'm speaking generally here as opposed to directly to the OP.

Golden rule : Before playing online, at least finish the single player campaign or tutorials. In a team based game if you jump in without having a grasp of the basics you're understandably going to annoy people.

With that said there are a lot of narcissist attracted to video gaming that will use every available opportunity to inflate their ego. Hell some of them don't even play they just hang around trying to wind anybody up that will bite.

Despite the fools, I've chatted to some cool people whilst gaming over the years. It's not all bad out there.

Probably the most current toxic multiplayer environments are the MOBA communities which include primarily League of Legends, Defense of the Ancients 2, and Heroes of Newerth (Pretty much dying)...I have played MMORPG's, CS 1.6 (Including tournaments/leagues), CS:S, CS:GO, BF3, MW2 and MW3, Online racing games, simulation games, blah, blah...Nothing is close to as pathetic as the MOBA communities.

Now, I would be understanding if if happened only in ranked with toxic attitudes (I do not condone, but i can understand frustration especially in ranked/league games, etc); however, the toxic attitudes, unfriendly attitudes, name calling, rascism, attacking players is just as bad/if not worse in their normal matches. Let me repeat, in a mode that absolutely gets you nothing but some IP (resources used to purchase champions/runes, and NOT That much) it happens there....its absolutely ridiculous.

The majority of it comes from the age group and the fact its "technically" free-2-play, so anyone can get in there and be an ass, and if their account gets banned they just create new ones. Its pathetic.

Well that is my rant...lol

Sorry, but I (and pretty much everyone else that plays on the hardest difficulties) don't have time for your pathetic-ness in Expert. If you don't know how to play the game perfectly, there are three other difficulties that could teach you everything you need to know.
That's just stupid. Ranked matches are one thing, training matches are another. Isn't there a report / ignore / mute function, or something similar?

I tend to play with randoms online in games only after I've got a really good grasp on the game. If I'm late to starting playing a game, I definitely find it a bit offputting playing with randoms though. Left 4 Dead 2 for example, I started playing that after it'd been out for a while, and I experienced how toxic the community could be by jumping into a versus game at one point (not directed at me though) which put me right off. The problem there is with there being no default game mode to experiment in a single player setting what versus entails, and so I found myself largely avoiding what was probably the best part of the game.

As time goes on though what I tend to find is the people who rage in general aren't exactly good players themselves. When you end up playing with/against the top tier players you don't tend to see it so much, and I think that makes it easier to ignore the outbursts you sometimes get while playing with people with attitude problems. They don't even realize that they're lashing out due to an inability to recognize their own ineptitude. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning-Kruger is what I saw linked once on the Battle.net forums and it's pretty spot on for the group I'm discussing.)

Possibly unrelated but a story I wanted to share about hostility in gaming, I don't really get it directed at me very often because as I said I wait until I have a more than adequate grasp on a game before playing randomly. I was playing Streetfighter 4 online on the PS3, and one game I ended up playing against a Sagat player at a fairly high ranking on my Cammy. First 2 matches were quite close, but we ended up at 1-1, then on the final, drawn out game I ended up losing - great game though.

Then I got a message from the guy. Surely it would be a message of comradery, applauding the decent game, asking for some more games maybe? I added a few players to my friends lists after games like that as I played the game, and I only really played against assholes in the lower tier fights. But no. 'lol u suk' followed by several similar messages of different levels of abuse, all expertly crafted with the same level of prose making one think it came from the pen of the bard himself. I sent a reply congratulating him on the good game and cried myself to sleep forever.

The moral of the story is all Sagat players are assholes regardless of tier.

i fully enjoy playing Blur online... but thats about it... any other game is a shortcut to failure and not worth getting screamed at... im overly tactical and enjoy taking my time... hell even in Diablo 3 i get yelled at for moving to slow and not rushing though the game :/

true that :)

I was never good in any shooters or FPS games, but this game has a tactics in it and you need to harness your skills as well (or you can just roam around and get yourself killed :D

most of the time it doesn't matter as you're only one tiny part of the team, and if the rest are not at least a little experienced, your team wouldn't win anyway :)

so, mostly you hear "team of noobs", not "YOU're a noob" ;) and that is nice... :o) it's a team effort!

I played a lot of Dungeon Defenders a while back and I also kicked "noobs" (or rather poor chars) that entered the higher difficulty games. Because the game scales with players, and if you can't pull your weight, you're a burden to the rest.

I asked them if they had a better char and if I didn't get an answer I kicked them before the match started.

...and that's about it:

there will always be people who take their gaming seriously and feel that others who don't spoil it for them

and there will always be people who don't care if they're good or bad, they just want to have fun

but we all should always be nice to each other :o)

the end! :D

Uhm, is that sarcasm? Because that's exactly what I'm sayin', except that you are sounding like one of the douchebags I'm complaining about...

No, it is not sarcasm. Why is it not sarcasm?

Because you have three lower difficulties that you could practice at. If you don't know how to play, stop ruining other people's fun.

Hah, ok man. And that's what I'm saying, if the game does have difficulty settings then I understand and agree with kicking without much .

BF3 is noob friendly for about 5 seconds.