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babark: There are loads of such weirdnesses here, especially for someone who is not Pakistani. Some examples:
This idea of their being "hot" and "cold" foods. Not in terms of temperature or spiciness, but in terms of...something- maybe suitability to outside weather? Like eggs or rabbit is a "hot" food. Potato is a "cold" food. Not sure of the logic behind it, just occasionally get irritated by people telling me "Don't eat eggs for breakfast today, it is the middle of summer!"

Related to that is this idea of certain foods you shouldn't drink water after, because...something. Your stomach will explode and you'll die, maybe. Since I'm a pretty heavy water drinker, it can lead to some fairly strange exchanges (often between me and my friends' mothers or grandmothers). Why SHOULDN'T I drink water after having some milk food or toast and jam?

Then there's also this thing called "takaluf". Not sure how I'd translate it..."formality", maybe? I'm pretty sure it is a thing in the rest of the Subcontinent and Iran as well: When someone offers you something, like a cup of tea or biscuits or food, you're supposed to thank them and refuse, and then only accept after they've insisted for a while. If the host actually takes your word for it and thinks you really don't want the thing, and doesn't give you any, then they end up being a bad host or something. Really problematic for me, because like some weird alien or something here, I don't like drinking tea. So when someone asks if I want some, and I refuse, they think I'm doing takaluf and start insisting. It ends up that I say "If you have some green tea or jasmine tea, I'd prefer that", but then if they don't have that, it puts them in an awkward position, so I usually just ask if they have some cold water.
Can't you just say "Look, let's forget the takaluf!" or something to let the host know you aren't doing takaluf so that they don't get put in an awkward position?
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ZFR: In Ireland you almost always get two separate taps in a sink. One for hot and one for cold water. No idea why.
It doesn't help that the water in one is scorching hot and in the other freezing cold.
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B0SC0: This is more a thing with older houses and apartments though (i.e. any built before the boom) as new ones generally have the one tap. Probably due to early water systems having the water come from two different sources, hot from the immersion/tank in the attic, cold straight from the mains.
I haven't seen a single attic or basement here in Australia.... We have a manhole in the ceiling, and a garage, rumpus room, laundry under the house. Hot water also comes from a hot water tank, heated by electricity rather than gas. All single taps in this place, too.
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babark: Related to that is this idea of certain foods you shouldn't drink water after, because...something. Your stomach will explode and you'll die, maybe. Since I'm a pretty heavy water drinker, it can lead to some fairly strange exchanges (often between me and my friends' mothers or grandmothers). Why SHOULDN'T I drink water after having some milk food or toast and jam?
Haha, that reminds me – in Croatia there is a widespread belief that drinking warm or even tepid water will make you sick/vomit. It doesn't matter that liquid food and drinks like soup and tea are drunk warm or hot with no ill effects, if it's plain water, then it must be drunk cool.

Also, for women: washing your hair during your period is very dangerous. Nobody can specify why exactly is it harmful for the body, you're just not supposed to do it.
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babark: Then there's also this thing called "takaluf". Not sure how I'd translate it..."formality", maybe? I'm pretty sure it is a thing in the rest of the Subcontinent and Iran as well: When someone offers you something, like a cup of tea or biscuits or food, you're supposed to thank them and refuse, and then only accept after they've insisted for a while. If the host actually takes your word for it and thinks you really don't want the thing, and doesn't give you any, then they end up being a bad host or something. Really problematic for me, because like some weird alien or something here, I don't like drinking tea. So when someone asks if I want some, and I refuse, they think I'm doing takaluf and start insisting. It ends up that I say "If you have some green tea or jasmine tea, I'd prefer that", but then if they don't have that, it puts them in an awkward position, so I usually just ask if they have some cold water.
It's there in Syria as well, though I don't think it has a specific name. But you quickly learn, especially with people you know, to tell whether the person is really doesn't want to or not. In a more formal situation with strangers you could either just take it, say you'd rather have something else, like you did with tea/water, or come up with an excuse they can't get around (you've just been to the dentist and really can't eat anything).

And you don't like tea??? Do they add lots of sugar to it? That's another small weird thing in Syria: people often add tons of it. 3 teaspoons to a small cup are common, and 5 or 6 are not unheard of. It's rare that people drink tea without it, unless it's for a health reason.
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JudasIscariot: Can't you just say "Look, let's forget the takaluf!" or something to let the host know you aren't doing takaluf so that they don't get put in an awkward position?
If you're on a good enough terms with the person to be able to say "forget takaluf" then you probably don't need to.
Post edited September 23, 2015 by ZFR
In Thailand there are lots of oddities mostly from rural superstition (don't whistle on the door or the bad spirits will come, don't keep an infant high at night outside because they have an ability to see ghosts in the dark, blaa blaa blaa...), but one practical thing that gets me every time (I may have told this earlier):

Waving to come forward looks oddly to me like waving you to go backwards. When I want to show someone to come forward, I have my palm facing upwards and/or towards me, and make gestures with either my fingers or my whole arm to come towards me, as if pulling them towards me. But the Thai way is to keep the palm facing downwards/towards you, and make a motion which looks like waving fingers from up to down. To me that looks more like "Hush! Go away!".

Like a couple of years ago I was parking my car and there was some person helping with the parking and showing the place, he waved his hand that way, meaning I should come forward. I thought "Oh, I should go back now? Ok then, I'll reverse...", which I did. It took me awhile to realize he was waving me to drive forward.

That reminds me, I'm not even sure how Thais wave someone to go away. Ok, sometimes I see someone doing a quick down-up hand wave for a dog, as if brushing it away.

Also the practices in traffic, when you are waiting to get to a road with your car or cross a road as a pedestrian, someone blinking their lights does NOT mean they will let you pass and make room for you (like it would normally mean in e.g. Finland, I think). No, it means the exact opposite, that you should not try to come in front of them, or they will surely ram you.


Furthermore I don't like it how in Thailand headlights are kept off until it gets dark. I like the EU way more where headlights must always be on. Then it is far easier to tell even in daylight if some car is really moving towards you or just parked on the side of the road, and also when it is getting dark, some Thai people won't turn on the headlights until it is really pitch dark. Or if it is a heavy rain, some turn them on, some don't. There doesn't seem to be definite rules when they should be turned on, so it varies from person to person. Many apparently turn them on only if they need them to see ahead, not a second before that.

Also, many Thais seem to get angry if I keep my headlights on at day time (not the far lights, but only the near lights, so it isn't like they should be blinding them either).

Hence, I prefer the headlights are always on, then there wouldn't be such variance and guessing when to keep them on or off.
Post edited September 23, 2015 by timppu
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timppu: Hence, I prefer the headlights are always on, then there wouldn't be such variance and guessing when to keep them on or off.
Here you don't have to turn on your headlights during the day in the daylight saving period (March-October), but they have to be on at all times in the off period (October-March), and you can easily get fined. Many people get confused or forgetful – at first you condition yourself to turn on the headlights as soon as you start your car, but then suddenly you don't have to do it anymore. I prefer to have them off duright the day because the electronics dim my dashboard display when the headlights are on.

Some people, however, have both the headlights and forward and rear fog lights on during the day. They seem to be oblivious to the fact that it irritates other people's eyes something fierce, especially if they're right behind them.
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Charon121: Here you don't have to turn on your headlights during the day in the daylight saving period (March-October), but they have to be on at all times in the off period (October-March), and you can easily get fined. Many people get confused or forgetful – at first you condition yourself to turn on the headlights as soon as you start your car, but then suddenly you don't have to do it anymore.
I think here all cars sold automatically enable near lights when you start the car, so being "forgetful" isn't good enough excuse here. :) In order to use far lights, you'll need to enable "night lights" though, which will also dim the speed meter a bit and light up other controls, as then it is expecting it is dark outside, and also inside the car.

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Charon121: I prefer to have them off duright the day because the electronics dim my dashboard display when the headlights are on.
Here that happens only if you enable the "night mode": dims the speedometer etc. a bit (because they might be too bright for your eyes at dark times), lights up some additional knobs on the dashboard (as otherwise you won't see them in the dark), and enable the ability to use far lights, other than just blinking them. In the day mode, you can merely blink the far lights (is the correct term "high beam"?), not use them continually.

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Charon121: Some people, however, have both the headlights and forward and rear fog lights on during the day. They seem to be oblivious to the fact that it irritates other people's eyes something fierce, especially if they're right behind them.
Here fog lights may be used only in fog or very heavy rain. If you use them elsewhere (daytime or night time), you'll get fined.
Post edited September 23, 2015 by timppu
In Spain, if women make mayonaise during their period, it will go bad as they make it. And if their feet are swept with a broom they will never get married.

We have this way of using our language in which it's not all that unusual to call your friend "son of a whore" in a friendly way and calling someone smart can be something bad (as in smartass, but without actually using a different word).

Spanish is possibly one of the most colourful languages to insult people or be generally rude. To the point where words like dick or asshole are something we think are cute when children say it. We shit on someone's whore of a mother, god, the sea or whatever we feel like in the heat of the moment.
Not really a national oddity, but an oddity of the German language as a whole (especially, if you're from an English speaking country), is the use of our personal pronouns.
While an English speaker would refer to an adult stranger with a gender specific term, like "Sir", "Ma'am" or simply by "you" (second-person singular), in German you refer to a stranger (male or female) as "Sie" (capitalized third-person plural). The uncapitalized "sie" means either "she" or "they", so they are not to be confused.
Like I said, "Sie" is to be used whem approaching a stranger, but it is also used in formal workplaces. Not using it and using "du" ("you") can come off as condescending or disrespectful. Skipping the "Sie" and going to the less formal "du" usually occurs when both parties agree to it.
Post edited September 24, 2015 by k4ZE106
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k4ZE106: Not really a national oddity, but an oddity of the German language as a whole (especially, if you're from an English speaking country), is the use of our personal pronouns.
English had the same thing as well, except they used the French tu/vous system, i.e. 2nd person plural instead of 3rd person singular. There was "thou" for addressing a single person you were familiar with, and "you" for addressing multiple people or a single one in a formal register. "Thou" was gradually phased out, and today in English there is only "you", that means every English-speaking person everywhere is formal and polite. Modern Quakers still use(d) "thou" to emphasize that we're all brothers in God or something like that, so there's no need for excessive formality. :)
Post edited September 23, 2015 by Charon121
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JudasIscariot: Can't you just say "Look, let's forget the takaluf!" or something to let the host know you aren't doing takaluf so that they don't get put in an awkward position?
Yeah, that could simply be interpreted as another sort of takaluf.

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ZFR: And you don't like tea??? Do they add lots of sugar to it? That's another small weird thing in Syria: people often add tons of it. 3 teaspoons to a small cup are common, and 5 or 6 are not unheard of. It's rare that people drink tea without it, unless it's for a health reason.
Hahaha...3 teaspoons of sugar is the usual minimum. But no, I'm just not a fan of tea, or coffee or soft drinks, or hard drinks, or non-fresh juice or cigarettes, etc. I'm an incredibly boring person that way :D. A friend yelled at me angrily when I bought coke zero so as to have something to drink when another friend was treating a group of us "What's the point of drinking that, it has no sugar, no caffeine, might as well just have gotten water!".
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Charon121: English had the same thing as well, except they used the French tu/vous system, i.e. 2nd person plural instead of 3rd person singular. There was "thou" for addressing a single person you were familiar with, and "you" for addressing multiple people or a single one in a formal register. "Thou" was gradually phased out, and today in English there is only "you", that means every English-speaking person everywhere is formal and polite. Modern Quakers still use(d) "thou" to emphasize that we're all brothers in God or something like that, so there's no need for excessive formality. :)
Thou hasn't been in regular use in a long time though ^^
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Maighstir: Here, you're perfectly allowed to walk at red light, as long as you're not disturbing the traffic. Not that people care much, as they frequently cross the street regardless of whether or not there are cars passing by, or whether or not there's even a crosswalk there at all - there might very well be one five metres to either side, or even both sides.
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JudasIscariot: Jaywalking will get you ticketed here...even if you are crossing the street at 4 AM and the city guard happens to catch you doing so :)
Wait, 'city guard'? Is that part of the police, or the equivalent of a traffic warden or a bunch of dudes in plate-mail complaining that they once took an arrow to the knee :-D
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babark: Then there's also this thing called "takaluf". Not sure how I'd translate it..."formality", maybe?
I think it might be closest to 'etiquette' which, like a lot of flowery English, is a word we nicked off the French!
Post edited September 23, 2015 by Fever_Discordia
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JudasIscariot: Jaywalking will get you ticketed here...even if you are crossing the street at 4 AM and the city guard happens to catch you doing so :)
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Fever_Discordia: Wait, 'city guard'? Is that part of the police, or the equivalent of a traffic warden or a bunch of dudes in plate-mail complaining that they once took an arrow to the knee :-D
It's these guys...

I say "city guard" because that's the best term I can think of. They aren't police but they are treated as functionaries of the law.
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babark: Then there's also this thing called "takaluf". Not sure how I'd translate it..."formality", maybe? I'm pretty sure it is a thing in the rest of the Subcontinent and Iran as well: When someone offers you something, like a cup of tea or biscuits or food, you're supposed to thank them and refuse, and then only accept after they've insisted for a while. If the host actually takes your word for it and thinks you really don't want the thing, and doesn't give you any, then they end up being a bad host or something. Really problematic for me, because like some weird alien or something here, I don't like drinking tea. So when someone asks if I want some, and I refuse, they think I'm doing takaluf and start insisting. It ends up that I say "If you have some green tea or jasmine tea, I'd prefer that", but then if they don't have that, it puts them in an awkward position, so I usually just ask if they have some cold water.
So much this. AFAIK there is no name for it but it definitely exists. The sheer amount of ''polite'' back and forth that goes on when someone visits is crazy. Then the awkwardness when you can't eat what you accepted for some reason. The worst experience for me is tea. People don't let it cool down. So they'll be watching you with the finger melting cup of tea in your hand and insist that you drink.
If you're visiting your grandmother, all hope is lost because she is like that either way and being a guest just makes her more insistent.

Also a driving practice : whenever someone does some asshole-like behavior on the road, people just drive by and give them a long leer instead of shouting them down (less common) or blowing the horn (also less common).

Also; motor-scooters for girls and motorbikes for boys. Anywhere else have that tradition?