OldFatGuy: Not sure I'm understanding your criteria but I'll recommend you just briefly take a look and might be able to quickly rule it out. Unfortunately I don't think it's available here so this is a Steam link.
http://store.steampowered.com/app/46380/Reign_Conflict_of_Nations/Reign: Conflict of Nations[/url]
Sorry :( . So i am looking for a medieval country managemnt game, similar to knights of honor( which is similar to medieval total war, but in real time). So a game with big overview map of europe. However, the focus should be away from the military aspect and more on diplomacy, economics, politics and so on. So basically total war game, but with less battle and more country managemnt and preferably in real time aand not turen based). From the suggestions until now, i think maybe crusader kings is the closest to my criteria.
Reign: Conflict of Nations - maybe , thank you.
paladin181: Also, Banished is very very good with no military element to it.
Thanks you. Sadly it is a city builder. It is good game though. :)
blotunga: I wonder why nobody mentioned
Lords of the Realm 2. One of the best strategy games imho. Total War, before the total war series ever existed.
Also you might like Medieval 2: Total War...
I tried medieval 2. Sadly for some reason i dont like it very much, maybe becouse it is turned based. I dont know. Probably will give it another chance. Lords of the realm , dont know. Thank you for contributing anyways :)