Posted April 09, 2016
@dtgreene: On one hand, I feel for sorry for you because you are downrepped so much. But on the other hand, you do sometimes bring it on yourself to a degree.
Instead of:
why not say:
If you're thinking something along the lines of "Why do I have to be nice to the oppressors?!" (that's a playful caricature), then ask yourself this: Do I care more about getting to have a sense of righteousness or about communicating well and actually building a better future?
Sorry if that comes off as preachy.
Instead of:
why not say:
Cool idea, but I'd prefer they call it a "fist bump" - includes everyone that way. :)
Approach and tone make a real difference, and yours often alienates people like me who might otherwise be friendly to what you're saying. If you're thinking something along the lines of "Why do I have to be nice to the oppressors?!" (that's a playful caricature), then ask yourself this: Do I care more about getting to have a sense of righteousness or about communicating well and actually building a better future?
Sorry if that comes off as preachy.
Post edited April 09, 2016 by drmfro