89theminer: pressing shift+3 isnt working so i have no idea how to type in the # symbol
This one ended up with me doing some Googling around after the game manual didn't help out. And it was this forum that helped me. I was on the party screen hitting CTRL+Letter of Character and they weren't making a party.
To clarify, hitting the number of a town (1-5) at the main screen will open up the town. Then you hit Ctrl + Letter of Character to add or remove them from your party. Then hit "X". Hitting "#" from the main screen for me always seems to go to Town #3, which I have no characters in— so that isn't particularly helpful. Maybe it's a shortcut you have to set?