angrypole: I am not going to lie though, I am overweight, socially awkward and still in school (becoming a teacher).

iippo: Being a bit older than you, take my word - being overweight is one of the easier problems in life. First, unless youre somehow sick about it, it isnt really dangerous - secondly if you so choose and put some attention to it you can simply get as fit as you like to.

I have some friends who are paralyzed neck down, puts things to bit different perspective..

Being socially akward. Well that gets only better by being in contact with people. Do you know why youre akward in social situations? Afraid of people or them thinking something about you? If it has something to do with you being overweight - you might solve two problems at once with luck :)

How being school is problem? is that supposed to be advantage with more girls and young women around? :D

rrr8891: To the OP: you really, really, really don't want a girlfriend. It's like throwing your money into a black hole, only the black hole cheats on you. Just stick with prostitutes. You get in, you get out, you don't have to buy her expensive shoes the next day.

fartheststar: Hey man, just wanted to recommend something called the "red pill" and the "manosphere". It's all about helping guys understand and operate in the relationship game. Be warned, it might be a bit "strong"/overstated sometimes, but there's good stuff there. There's lots a guy can do to increase social value, and understand what you need to do.

The first step is to work on yourself - become fit/healthy, confidence, be interesting, etc - but there's quite a bit more psychology behind attracting a mate also. (hint: most guys who are successful at dating will tell you it's not about being a "nice guy.") There's a whole "players" angle to this that's pretty unappetizing, and lots of guys that really don't think much of girls - but there are others who give really good advice on how to create, sustain interest from a woman and create long term relationships that work.

Here's a few pretty good sites imho to get you started if interested.
http://www.justfourguys.com/
http://badgerhut.wordpress.com/
http://therationalmale.com/
http://youngmanredpill.wordpress.com/2013/03/30/why-the-manosphere-exists-in-one-post-for-beginners/
http://marriedmansexlife.com/blog/

Again - some of the posts might be a little raw, but I think there's some good stuff in here for guys who are wanting to attract a mate but aren't having much luck as of yet.

fablefox: I'm 35 this year, never been in relationship. Never been on a date either.

I don't know how to explain it, but when I was a teenager, I easily fall in love and have a crush. The most serious moment when I was in high school equivalent (16-17) where I really have a crush on this girl. It was so serious that if she liked me too, I would have gotten married at 18, before going to the university.

But she not interested in me. At the university, I also have a crush on this woman, but I didn't pursue it because of my problem with the university and dropped out.

I never fall in love ever since. Life was just going to work, get rest at weekend, and go to work again. Ever since 2000.

The problem become harder when early on my job was mostly men (machinery and build house) or back office (loan processor, and now DBA) - and most people already married.

Sometimes I do go out at weekend (moves / bookstore) but again, going out alone to these places is not going to land you girlfriends.

Of course, since I'm a muslim and this is Islamic country, people tend to marry early (majority graduates get their significant other at universities) and get married once graduated.

Oh well... live and let live I guess.

HereForTheBeer: Some psychobabble follows...

Being overweight and socially awkward can be overcome. As you work on one it'll be easier to work on the other. Start with small goals (5 pounds, and maybe simply laughing more) and as you see progress in the little things you'll be motivated to keep going. In the end, you need to be comfortable with, and gain confidence in, yourself. Women will see a confident person and that will help lead them to want to get to know you. That, and it's going to help you in other ways the rest of your life.

I'll put this out there, too: if you're a teacher who doesn't show confidence in yourself, the kids will eat you alive.

angrypole: Yes, the tone is bit strong. I don't know if I would be better off making signification changes to my attitude towards women.

HereForTheBeer: Some psychobabble follows...

Being overweight and socially awkward can be overcome. As you work on one it'll be easier to work on the other. Start with small goals (5 pounds, and maybe simply laughing more) and as you see progress in the little things you'll be motivated to keep going. In the end, you need to be comfortable with, and gain confidence in, yourself. Women will see a confident person and that will help lead them to want to get to know you. That, and it's going to help you in other ways the rest of your life.

I'll put this out there, too: if you're a teacher who doesn't show confidence in yourself, the kids will eat you alive.

angrypole: Thanks.
I think a lot of people misinterpret me being overweight. I know I from the U.S.A. but I am just overweight. Not obese. I cycle to work and school, but I don't have a gym body. That is what I meant.