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GFTOW?
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strixo: GFTOW?
Right? And then what happened?
Those letters mean nothing to me. =)
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strixo: GFTOW?
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Antimateria: Right? And then what happened?
Those letters mean nothing to me. =)
This is for the best, my friend. My solution to the OP's question is a vulgar one, based in hormones and viscera. It should not be for everyone.
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Antimateria: Right? And then what happened?
Those letters mean nothing to me. =)
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strixo: This is for the best, my friend. My solution to the OP's question is a vulgar one, based in hormones and viscera. It should not be for everyone.
I almost cracked the code and confirmed that with always trustworthy google.
It's not a bad advice. =)
If 'GFTOW' is innapropriate for individual sensibility and moral code of conduct, try 1 bottle amber to brown liquor.

Because OP is in the US, I would recommend something from Kentucky, and with the words "bourbon whiskey" on the label.

Again, this is not a one-size-fits-all solution.

For visual aid, see:
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/9/9b/DecaturBourbons.jpg
Post edited June 16, 2011 by strixo
Usually drinking has solved most of my woes. And money problems too, as in what could I buy next. Usually nothing. So no problem.
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Antimateria: I do that and masturbate. And play games.
...lovely.
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deathknight1728: I am obsessing over this girl that turned me down 2 months ago. I cant stop thinking about her even though she did turn me down as she was really cool. Its really pretty friggin lame as it hurts physically as well as emotionally. Can anyone recommend a way to gain apathy, as in not caring at all?

I sometimes wish i could be apathetic like Artemis Entreri, then i wouldnt worry about about a thing. Any advice?
I juss went through this situation like *right now.* For real, though I was juss wondering where I stand w/her regarding friendship, the same principles apply. She blew me off, and it actually feels great, b/c I now know she ain't worth a dime (and I'm more comfortable in situations akin to confrontation than I am to nicer emotions).

So what you gotta consider is first, why are you obsessing over her? Unless you have a substantial history with her, I can't see a positive reason why you should continue obsessing over her. And supposing you *do* have a substantial history with her, then you have to ask yourself why are you seeking to get close to someone who is pushing you away? I personally have way too much respect for myself to ever waste my time thinkin on some girl who ain't thinkin of me. You should do the same. Anything else, and you'll always lose.

I choose to win, and conquer. Even if that means being by myself at all times, closing doors that would've otherwise been open. In the meanwhile, I can busy myself playing PC games, watching sports, reading, hanging w/my parents, exercising, arguing on mssg boards, doin what I gotta do, & enjoying the weather. I'm simply telling you this so that you don't waste time thinkin on some girl. Most girls, like most fellas, are stupid as fuck anyways. The quicker you understand this, the better off you'll be; it'll lessen the chances of you being manipulated against your will.

This isn't apathy, nor do I endorse apathy. You should simply seek to draw a line in the sand.
There is nothing you can do. Time is the only remedy.
Try not to gain apathy, because it will influence your future relationships and it will be unfair for any future girlfriends - somehow, I know.

Accept what happened, analyse all of the situation, and move on. Half of the world has had the same problem at least once in their lifetimes.
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Fifeldor: Try not to gain apathy, because it will influence your future relationships and it will be unfair for any future girlfriends - somehow, I know.

Accept what happened, analyse all of the situation, and move on. Half of the world has had the same problem at least once in their lifetimes.
Im seriously considering staying single. Ive never had a good/serious relationship anyway. Plus, no commitments.
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kentomatic: I think that apathy comes naturally with nihilism: that is, if you believe that life truly is pointless you'll start to treat it as such (pretty much hedonism), and then that feeling will grow and you'll just stop caring about trivial things (and, really, everything becomes trivial with this state of mind).
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Magnitus: I disagree. You can also come up with the philosophy that if life is devoid of inherent meaning, you can make your own.
Making your own meaning for existence is essentially hedonism.
You're asking for relationship advice on a gaming forum? Mate, that's like asking a Klansman how to make your black friend like you more/
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Magnitus: I disagree. You can also come up with the philosophy that if life is devoid of inherent meaning, you can make your own.
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kentomatic: Making your own meaning for existence is essentially hedonism.
Only is my own meaning revolves mostly around pleasure.

If it doesn't then it strays from hedonism.

So far, I find a lot of thinkers paint 3 inescapable pictures for existence that are kinda bleak:

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1) Pre-determinism

Life has an agenda that we must find out and strictly adhere to.

It seems like a rather inflexible vision to me.

I see constant change and adaptation as a desirable trait of the universe which we should try to mimic in ourselves.

2) Nihilism

Life has no meaning, therefore I shouldn't feel anything and welcome the void because my existence is meaningless.

Any meaning I define for life cannot possibly be significant...

3) Hedonism

Life is an endless pursuit of pleasure without care for self achievement or join achievement.

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Frankly, all of those 3 models seem like a crutch for the weak in their own respective way.

I'd like to think that at least some of humanity are made of stronger stuff than that.
Post edited June 17, 2011 by Magnitus
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kentomatic: Making your own meaning for existence is essentially hedonism.
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Magnitus: Only is my own meaning revolves mostly around pleasure.

If it doesn't then it strays from hedonism.
Any meaning for existence that you define for yourself is intrinsically what you want, and designing your life to get what you want is hedonism. Even if you work in some bit about doing work to better yourself or accepting hardship or whatever to get around the "pleasure" aspect, you're still sculpting your entire outlook on existence based on what you want, and getting what you want is always pleasure (and not in a Twilight Zone-y way where what you want wasn't really want you wanted and now you're unhappy. I mean actually getting what you want). Even pain can be pleasure if it's desired.