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Posted May 20, 2021
Random question for the GOG community...

What were your top three stressors in high school/middle school, and why was that so?

18+/HS graduates only, please.

Edit: It's for a graduate assignment in a course based on trauma and education
Post edited May 20, 2021 by JinseiNGC224
Posted May 20, 2021
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stressors what is that?
Posted May 20, 2021
My classmates, a lot of them were scum. I regret not having been able to be more violent towards them, many of them would have deserved having the shit beaten out of them (still fought one of them, and punched another one in the face, but they should have gotten so much more).
But anyway, why are you asking? Adult people should leave high school behind them at some point. It's a mark of adulthood that eventually your problems will usually get much worse than anything you had to endure in school (unless you were exceptionally bullied).
Posted May 20, 2021
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morolf: My classmates, a lot of them were scum. I regret not having been able to be more violent towards them, many of them would have deserved having the shit beaten out of them (still fought one of them, and punched another one in the face, but they should have gotten so much more).
But anyway, why are you asking? Adult people should leave high school behind them at some point. It's a mark of adulthood that eventually your problems will usually get much worse than anything you had to endure in school (unless you were exceptionally bullied).
I edited the original post. It's for a graduate assignment in a course I"m taking. I'm appropriately asking strangers within the context of the assignment as to what stressors were a big deal to them if they were a big deal.
Posted May 20, 2021
I assume "stressors" are things that cause stress? Honestly, there wasn't much. I had a very laid back, laissez-faire attitude, probably even too much so. That's not to say I was in any way "cool" mind you, I was just about the nerdiest nerd you're likely to meet. It's just that very little bothered me.
Post edited May 20, 2021 by Breja
Posted May 20, 2021
Thanks for the transparency. In summary, average nerd.

1. High pressure from parents on grades. Bane of my existence pressured by parents who wanted me to succeed. Still get minor PTSD of being late for exams or failing them in dreams. And it permeated into my social life, which excluded me from taking part in other social activities like parties or after-school clubs.

2. Fitting in to social hierarchies. Everyone was wearing the coolest fashion brands, which influenced my anxiety of telling myself I couldn't fit in. I was friendly with others because of my abilities, but never developed any meaningful or long-lasting relationships. I later learned I missed out on romantic interests. Only one of my friends from high school still keeps up with me today.

From what I understand with my younger sibling, social hierarchy can still be there, but it's more deconstructed. Thankfully, I'm better off today after university.
Posted May 20, 2021
I was/am rarely stressed. And I avoid situations/people (as much as possible) that could cause it.
Posted May 20, 2021
I got bullied quite a lot, but didn't really think much of it, just endured it. Then one day they (one smaller group) targeted a friend of mine who came over from another HS close by. He got pushed to the ground and called a bum/beggar or something. I just snapped and started screaming at them, probably half the school heard me, just shouted bloody murder. They toned it waaay down after that.
Later I snapped again and went to the principal and practically gave him a list of people and what they did to who and when, and some of the bullies got in a heap of trouble because of the domino effect. I am still fucking proud of myself for that.

Apart from that... the finals were a bit rough for me because I thought I needed lost of points to advance to a university I wanted to go to, but in reality everyone got in who applied in the first term. I literally just needed a passing grade. :)
Posted May 21, 2021
Found the orientation by the seniors extremely unpleasant, but luckily that didn't last long.

Other than that, the occasional class speech was quite stressful. I was quite good at it for some reason, but I hated it. Still, I recognize that it was an incredibly important skill to learn.

But mostly it was pretty chill.
Posted May 21, 2021
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nothing my grades were good and school was one of the best in the country
Posted May 21, 2021
I became a father at 14 so for me it was managing working, childcare and school. My gf (now wife) and I made it thanks to a lot of help from school counselors and family that found us support programs and jobs near the school with onsite child care. It was rough the first 3 years but got a lot easier as my kid go older and I was able to find a night job related to computer science. Everything else was cake walk.
Post edited May 21, 2021 by Arcadius-8606
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Arcadius-8606: I became a father at 14 so for me it was managing working, childcare and school. My gf (now wife) and I made it thanks to a lot of help from school counselors and family that found us support programs and jobs near the school with onsite child care. It was rough the first 3 years but got a lot easier as my kid go older and I was able to find a night job related to computer science. Everything else was cake walk.
at 14 ?:O oh
was that usual where you lived?
Posted May 21, 2021
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Matewis: Found the orientation by the seniors extremely unpleasant, but luckily that didn't last long.
I think you might need to clarify what that even is for some of us from different countries, cause I'm not even sure if that's an official part of the education system or an euphemism for some Code Red style harrasment.
Posted May 21, 2021
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Breja: I think you might need to clarify what that even is for some of us from different countries, cause I'm not even sure if that's an official part of the education system or an euphemism for some Code Red style harrasment.
Hmm, not sure why I used the term orientation there. What I meant was like hazing/initiation. That is, making us do stupid stuff in our first year of HS in order to 'become part of the school'. Over here the term orientation is sometimes used for it.
Posted May 21, 2021
The outdated material, the fact that I was in a Christian Private School when I was having a falling out with the religion, the want to rut in spite of the aforementioned factor; the fact that the school was not divided per grade, the funding problems, the lack of accreditation meaning it may potentially be worthless, the fact that my friends were several years my junior, the entire lack of an internet connection or modern computer equipment, the fact that the gym teacher was a hardass who seemed to think that military exercise programmes would work for all sizes and shapes, the fact that the entire facility largely was placed in the basement of the same church meaning I wouldn't get to breathe from the churchgoing environs, and probably more.

So pick three.

Right, I just recalled. The gym teacher, who was also the youth pastor (and happily preached Rapturemania [TL;DR: Utter codswallop about "The Endtimes" according to that hallucination tacked onto the end of the Christian Bible.] to us teenagers) also had his son in attendance, who was a bully in spite of his junior age and probable intellectual disablement.
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