Posted September 29, 2018
I was at the airport yesterday and I saw an incredibly beautiful young girl. And then she she took a bite out of sandwich and chewed it with her mouth hanging open and her jaw swaying like a cow's. And suddenly, she wasn't attractive anymore.
I get the same way from a girl with a cigarette.
It's not that I just dislike an activity, but my brain now completely changed what I see. Ignored flaws are now highlighted and I just don't like what I see.
I find this sort of thing quite interesting. I think our brains are wired to see attraction in things besides a perfect golden ratio. Voice quality, musculature underneath a shirt, glasses or a book in a hand can become instant attractants for some. I even know people who are attracted to a girl with a cigarette, which makes me not attracted.
I'm misophonic, so I think that's why the appearance of the girl's mouth changed my perception. I can't have a mate who Chee with their mouth open, even if I couldn't hear it at the airport from a girl in the distance.
Now, I'm happily married, not interested in asking out anybody, let alone a stranger in a strange city. But I can't deny that my brain regularly makes immediate judgment calls concerning potential mates. Perhaps my judgement is even an instant turn-off for some folks.
So, if you've paid attention to your brain, what sort of things can make a man or woman do from gorgeous to hideous in a matter of milliseconds?
Have you had a long term relationship with someone you found repulsive at first from one of those qualities? If so, did that quality matter?
I knew a guy who found a girl repulsive. He married her after enough pressure to date. He found her repulsion to be refreshing because he was able to focus on the less physical aspects of their relationship, which was often a struggle for him. And then the physical relationship grew out of nothing from that. That said, they're divorced now. So maybe our brains are telling us something.
I'm also curious if anyone had been in an arranged marriage and were repulsed but had to overcome that.
Thoughts?
I get the same way from a girl with a cigarette.
It's not that I just dislike an activity, but my brain now completely changed what I see. Ignored flaws are now highlighted and I just don't like what I see.
I find this sort of thing quite interesting. I think our brains are wired to see attraction in things besides a perfect golden ratio. Voice quality, musculature underneath a shirt, glasses or a book in a hand can become instant attractants for some. I even know people who are attracted to a girl with a cigarette, which makes me not attracted.
I'm misophonic, so I think that's why the appearance of the girl's mouth changed my perception. I can't have a mate who Chee with their mouth open, even if I couldn't hear it at the airport from a girl in the distance.
Now, I'm happily married, not interested in asking out anybody, let alone a stranger in a strange city. But I can't deny that my brain regularly makes immediate judgment calls concerning potential mates. Perhaps my judgement is even an instant turn-off for some folks.
So, if you've paid attention to your brain, what sort of things can make a man or woman do from gorgeous to hideous in a matter of milliseconds?
Have you had a long term relationship with someone you found repulsive at first from one of those qualities? If so, did that quality matter?
I knew a guy who found a girl repulsive. He married her after enough pressure to date. He found her repulsion to be refreshing because he was able to focus on the less physical aspects of their relationship, which was often a struggle for him. And then the physical relationship grew out of nothing from that. That said, they're divorced now. So maybe our brains are telling us something.
I'm also curious if anyone had been in an arranged marriage and were repulsed but had to overcome that.
Thoughts?
