Tarnicus: There is definitely the factor of those not identifying their gender, especially in the early days (2000) when I first started playing MMOs. The crap that females got from identifying themselves was horrendous. "OMG UR A GRL?!?" Given that I generally play female characters (it was even at one point in time but Azariiel became my main and Tarnicus my off-sider, and I found it easier to create female names that I preferred), I got to see things from different perspectives.
My perception could have a lot to do with no longer playing MMOs with guilds of other people, and being based on past perception. I generally start one for myself and partner and have all our alts in them. I got sick of the drama (partially created by myself) of interacting with other people closely. When I think about the last major guild I was in when playing Rift, the percentage was fairly even. Thanks for prompting me to give this more thought :)
Oh god, yes. The "OMG UR A GURL??!" is a reaction I've had, too; I can't count how many times someone in WoW has said, "Oh, you're
really a girl, not just playing a female [race]?" *facepalm* You should see their confusion when I'm playing a male character! I make my characters based on what looks interesting to me - sometimes that's something that's attractive, sometimes it's not, sometimes it's female, sometimes it's male. I'll admit to a large bias toward female toons in WoW because I'm not that fond of their male designs, but that's actually a rarity for me. Usually it's more of an even split. That carries over to my RL role-playing too, on those rare occasions anymore that I get to participate in an RPG group.
I'll avoid the whole "privilege" conversation that I can feel brewing in my mind. Been there, done that, it's usually a messy thing and I don't feel up to it tonight. Suffice to say that, yes, I'd say you get it, having seen something of what it's like from 'my' side, too. :)
Tarnicus: I have to say that out my partner and I, I am the chick-flick romcom lover, and she is the mindless action fan! I am the one who prefers an emotionally gripping tale that plucks my heartstrings, and she loves the violence and gore. Then again I did too when I was her age, and I think I've had my share of seeing violence glorified. We have managed to interest each other in our respective tastes in all manner of entertainment. I've always loved martial arts movies, but since undertaking full contact sparring a few years ago, I find so many of those flashy moves to be absolute BS! I love this clip
Rudimental - Right Here ft Foxes for the story and martial arts choreography, no matter how easy it would be to avoid most of the flashy kung fu shown in it.
My partner is now as big a mixed martial arts fan as I am, and it has lead to her leading some basic self defense from me :) Her German Shepherd cross black Labrador dog is a great sparring partner :)
I actually like well-done romcoms... but those are very rare these days. I also like a well-done drama... but my go-to movies for background noise, random fits of being bored, or "what looks good at the theater" are generally action-oriented things. My husband got me into martial arts movies (he was nearly a black belt in kajikenbo (which I
know I just spelled wrong) when he was younger), and I fell in love. I also blame him for my love of Godzilla flicks and their cousins. I grew up with two uncles who taught martial arts when I was much, much younger, so I know just little enough to catch a lot of the humor in filmed fights. Similarly, when the husband and friends got into backyard wrestling some years back, with another friend who'd gone to a wrestling school, I learned enough to appreciate the very hard work that pro wrestlers put in while still being able to laugh (sometimes a LOT) at the moves on tv. It doen't make me like watching pro wrestling any less, though it can sometimes be a challenge to set the knowledge aside and just 'be a mark' for the few hours it lasts.
Speaking of emotional tales... have you ever seen the film
Merry Christmas, Mr. Lawrence? It's about POWs during WWII and is a decidedly not-happy drama that I can only watch ever so often, but it is a
marvelous movie.
And my, I can blabber on. Apologies to those in the thread whom I've just bored to death! :)