"against all odds" you understood his post? Impressive. (i do not)

Sorry, i completely forgot about "democratic" bigotry and immediate tagging of "asshole", of anyone that they don't personally agree with. Thanks for the ongoing examples of intolerance! I seriously hope this isn't the "equality" you 're constantly trying to achieve?

Other than that, what can i say... I saw your title and i seriously wonder... Did you become an honorary citizen, of any country that Bill Clinton bombed, to show your love, support and back-door affection actively to them victims, too, back in time?

But you are seriously hurting my moment, here. I liked the title and the quote of the first post. I merely became a little bit creative and fit it in an example, that is all... Sorry for making you angry and upset, luv, you know that deep down, you are my bae and i like you!

Don't cry because it's over. Laugh maniacally because you still have matches.

Platitudes are irritating and always make me feel a bit arson-y.

Man, some things should never happen. Shit's just grim. Life is life though. Can't change much about that than trying to do better.

And sing! Don't forget to sing!

Smile because it happened.
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In my opinion this would be more badass:

And if you can't sing (because you are dead), play something instead:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t3WeOrUDtpc

That sets the mood for the funeral.

It doesn't work like that from where I'm standing. If what you experienced with said partner enriched your life and brought you joy/happiness while it lasted, then the memories can't be of no value; scratching off everything only because it's over is what takes away the value. Why let the other party's decision retroactively define the value of the experience and the memories that come with it for you? Would you prefer to never have had the experience, and the good things that came with it? Hasn't that experience, and the good that came with it, contributed at all into shaping you into the person you are now? You may be sad, angry or bitter now that it's over, but that doesn't change the fact that the experience brought good things into your life while it lasted; one can still be happy about that part, and smile.

One can even smile about a lot less. Consider the case you meet the person you both feel you'd be happy together, but in the end that person regrettably decides against giving it a shot. Would that make you sad? Yes, it would, but at the same time you can still be happy, hence smile, that you even met this person as the acquaintance alone and getting to know them enriched your life in ways you'd have never experienced if you hadn't met them.

One can have reasons to smile about even less than that. If one meets somebody and develops feelings of affection for that person, even if the feelings are not reciprocated, one can still smile and be happy they were given the chance to experience those feelings. They may not be able to smile right away, but over time, when the sadness of unrequited love and the feelings themselves subside, it's possible to see how even this experience holds something positive for them; if they choose to see it, they can smile, perhaps even channel it into other things and aspects of life.

It's all about the perspective we choose. JMO, of course.

On a side note, taking it from your point of view - if you think it's worth fighting for, then I don't think you really believe that the memories proved to have no value, at least not what concerns you.

Well it's obvious the op phrase is not useful for all cases...
But if you change the order of a few words:

"Don't cry because it happened, smile because it's over."
- Me

As horrible as the things mentioned above are, at least you're still alive.

Very good post , Mr BlueEye :-)

Just something about this part:
It's possible - even common IMO - that something is/was valuable and still not worth to continue fighting for. Because some things can be broken beyond repair, and still we can cherish the good memories of them.

Hmm... if one keeps fighting with the goal to restore the exact state of things before they cracked, then that's likely not going to turn out all that well. But for things to be broken beyond repair, something extremely grave must have transpired, at least for one party, which usually goes hand in hand with that party already being in the process of moving on; a situation can't be mend when only one tries, or is willing to try.

However, the point I was trying to make with that last bit of my post is that mystikmind2000's partner's view and decision seems to overshadow everything so much that they allow it to completely devalue the experience and memories, when, even from his own point of view and in regards to themselves, mystikmind2000 doesn't seem to actually believe that they are of no value, even now that it's over.

That's what I was aiming at. Breaking up is one of the hardest thingst o do, esp. if you had a partner who now tends to devalue everything that has been.
I wish a situation like that to no one, but my advice will always be: Work on it of there is a chance it's not over - but don't deny (or bend) yourself just to keep it alive. Admit that it's over when it's over. Never let someone take away the good things that have been. And the key to that is-- *rimshot* patience amd empathy (who would have guessed...).