Well, one of the perks of soldiery was being allowed to rape conquered women. It's one of the reasons the Crusaders made themselves so unpopular in the countries they passed through on the way to the Holy Land. There isn't such a well-recorded history of man-on-man rape following a conquest. I don't think that means it didn't happen, though.

(One of the reasons Joan of Arc wore men's clothes was that the style of hose she wore was notably difficult to remove by force.)

Oh by the way, this thread is about Dethmold.

Dethmold does not seem to have aged so gracefully as the sorceresses have. He was present at the Thanedd Coup, where he was described as "flaxen-haired". Now, not too many years later, he appears as a nasty-visaged old man, described by Derae in Act I as more like a wyrm than a man.

Maybe the sorceresses were right: magic does take its toll. If not diligently and expertly countered with beauty treatments, long and heavy use turns you into something like Dorian Gray's portrait.