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Posted July 06, 2013
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Pheace: Wrong feelings that last part. Good of course, and understandable that it makes you feel good that you are capable of making someone feel good in that sense with how you are treating her. But this is about you, and how you feel about her, not about how good it probably makes you feel that you can make her feel that.

I put that into words badly but hopefully you get the point.
I got the point.
I know that this is not all about her, and as I said, at the same time, she is giving so much back making me feel good too. Guess I just have to spend some time by myself, thinking about all this some more.
Posted July 06, 2013
Maybe your just nervous because you think she might be THE ONE (In a non-Keanu Reeves way, I mean)
Posted July 06, 2013
Just enjoy the ride, man. Don't get too carried away with it.
Posted July 06, 2013
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Licurg: Maybe your just nervous because you think she might be THE ONE (In a non-Keanu Reeves way, I mean)
Well, I would welcome this possibility with open arms. I mean, come on. I can talk to this girl about things I would with no one else, in a very open way. Even about things we don't agree on and we respect each others opinions and that's fine. I had my doubts on things like getting married, having kids and all that, but in this case, I would welcome the opportunity.
Post edited July 06, 2013 by ThermioN
Posted July 06, 2013
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Licurg: Maybe your just nervous because you think she might be THE ONE (In a non-Keanu Reeves way, I mean)
^Exactly what I came here to write. You're probably just nervous. Subconsciously you're thinking one day you might not come up with something clever to say or that certain lock of hair is all mangled around your forehead making you look unattractive or you try to discreetly pass a bit of gas but she notices and yadayadayada...
If you have romantic feelings, don't hold back! Things will get easier and more natural very quickly.
Posted July 06, 2013
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AFnord: It might be a defensive mechanism. You are worried that you'll get hurt if she leaves you

Or it might be that you genuinely don't have any romantic feelings for her. How do you feel when you think about her? Any butterflies in the stomach?
This, maybe (refering to the first option). Maybe you're just afraid of the big leap (of faith)?
Posted July 06, 2013
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ThermioN: I don't know why I'm sharing this with you guys.... ...maybe it's due to the lack of sleep during the last 48 hours or so.

The thing is, I met this girl a couple of days ago, we talked a litte... ...for like eight hours straight and had a good time. So I thought to myself: Wow, what a nice girl. Two days ago she called me at one o'clock in the morning, asking me to come over to her place. We spent the night watching movies and had a long conversation about our views on life itself and relationships. The more time we spent together talking about these things, the more obvious it became that our opinions were almost 100% the same in every aspect. We started making out an all this good stuff and spent a few days together and had a really good time. And because everything went suprisingly well, we agreed to take our time with this and just give it a shot.

On my way home earlier, I started thinking about what happend during the last few days. I really enjoyed everything (as did she) and I have a good feeling about this and I should be the happiest guy arround... ...but I'm not! I feel terrible and I can not put my finger on in what could be the cause.

What are your thoughts on this? Have you every experienced something like this before? Or is there something seriously wrong with me?!
Any change can be unsettling, even a good one. You are possibly making the jump from "single" to "uh-oh, another variable in the equation"....roll with it, enjoy it, if it turns into more and that's what you want then go for it!
Posted July 06, 2013
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Reever: This, maybe (refering to the first option). Maybe you're just afraid of the big leap (of faith)?
Maybe I'm still abit afraid of this. Maybe because this could really be it this time.
Then again, I wouldn't mind the dramatic change this would be to my life the way I lived it 'till this day.
Post edited July 06, 2013 by ThermioN
Posted July 06, 2013
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ThermioN: snip
Ask her to marry you. I'm serious, usually your instincts are more accurate than what you think. If you don't do it soon, you'll get cold feet, and die alone, forgotten by the world.
Posted July 06, 2013
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Licurg: Ask her to marry you. I'm serious, usually your instincts are more accurate than what you think. If you don't do it soon, you'll get cold feet, and die alone, forgotten by the world.
Omg... that's it. You're right. Brilliant!
Posted July 06, 2013
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ThermioN: Brilliant!
Yes, I am.
Posted July 06, 2013
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Licurg: Ask her to marry you. I'm serious, usually your instincts are more accurate than what you think. If you don't do it soon, you'll get cold feet, and die alone, forgotten by the world.
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ThermioN: Omg... that's it. You're right. Brilliant!
I... sincerely hope you're not serious. THIS could end in a disaster really quickly. Trying to bind and shackle (too soon) is the quickest way to lose...
Posted July 06, 2013
Strong emotions of one type can very easily swing into strong emotions of another type. Obvious this girl inspired some strong emotions in you, and I imagine that some natural anxieties that come with starting a relationship are just being amplified by those strong emotions. So I'd say there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, and that you just need to try to not get too overwhelmed by the emotional rollercoaster until your feelings calm down and stabilize a bit.
Posted July 06, 2013
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ThermioN: -snip-
Maybe youre just worrying too much? Stressing the "Might's and Might-not's" so to speak.

Well, i am probably not qualified to answer - but id sugget you to go "all-in", meaning that just give it your best and try to enjoy it to fullest - but try not to have expectations. Act natural and things will go the way the will go. Good, bad - who knows, but youll get there in time and it doesnt one bit to stress about it too much beforehand.
Posted July 06, 2013
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Vestin: I... sincerely hope you're not serious. THIS could end in a disaster really quickly. Trying to bind and shackle (too soon) is the quickest way to lose...
Of course I'm not :)
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