I'm not so sure. From the sound of it, most of my socialising headaches could be solved if only I was like you.
I can't approach people like you do. When I socialise, I'm social. I try to pay attention, I try to be nice, open, honest and obedient. I try not to be pushy or assertive or aggressive. Because with very few exceptions, that's how I'd like others to approach me. It's also simply the kind of person I am. I don't mean I'll necessarily jump out a window if someone asks me to, but.. Actually, I have done that. But I was really drunk, so it doesn't count. Much. I think. The point is that I'm really, really easy to manipulate, take advantage of, or otherwise use. And scarily many people do it.
It wouldn't be a big problem if I knew how to extricate myself from such situations. But I don't know how to do that. It probably sounds strange, but it makes me extremely uncomfortable just to think about trying. Maybe there's something deeply wrong with me or something, but I can't fail people or their expectations of me, just because doing so would be to my advantage. Not even when people are being dangerously unreasonable. Generally, it simply doesn't happen unless someone takes pity on me and gets me out of whatever I have gotten into.
I have often wished I could be a hermit, but unfortunately I crave other people like a dopefiend craves crack. Not because I get bored in my own company, in any sense. It is very difficult to bore me. But because. Hmm. I don't know how to express myself exactly. Because I'm too curious, or something. To me, other people are amazing and extremely interesting. Even when they make me feel bad or create problems for me. I think I'd have to be dead to stay a hermit for more than a day or so.
I packed my stuff and went to India to find a job back when I was younger than you are, largely because I felt like an endangered species. Being considered a foreigner tends to make people treat me like something approaching human, so for years and years I'd basically pack my stuff and go far away as soon as people got past me being a foreigner.
As implied earlier, I've settled down now and count myself extraordinarily lucky in that regard. My much better half doesn't mind rescuing me when I'm in need of it, and understands how. I have also managed to find few friends I can rely on. I know you probably can't understand what that means, but to me having that 'safety net' is a bigger relief than it was to get out of southern Turkey in '99 (which was thought to be a special IED delivery zone for foreigners at the time).
Still, I can't always rely on someone to look out for me, and even with situational constraints (like work and such) moderating people, I often need it. I really wish it wasn't so. But I can't do like you do, and I suppose it's a little bit unreasonable to expect everyone else to change for me, when I can't change myself.
It really is, haha. It's also a little scary. I could have explained myself better earlier, for example, but I didn't quite have the nerve..
As for opposites, they do kind of attract. It's just that there's both complimentary opposites, and mutually exclusive ones.
I'd respond to more of you, but my keyboard is threatening to go on strike if I don't stop typing.