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Alright, not really the best forum to post this on, but you guys are fairly mature

Okay, So, Basically, I'm currently planning to ask a girl out and as a result of my shyness (I'm a very shy guy, Lol) I am having trouble trying to find a very direct way to do this, since she is a gamer (She's also fit, enjoys writing etc.) I was thinking of doing it through attaching a Mail to a gift pokemon and trading it to her (She plays alot of pokemon, and it was my first game when I was young ^.^) as a unique and somewhat original idea. (it probably isn't)
The other thing I'm concerned with is the location and how much physical contact I should have with her when I do ask her out and if she accepts (And that's a big IF). She is a fairly physical person and is fairly touchy. (She will nudge feet under the table etc, Don't know if that's something she only does with me but I think it's just part of her outgoing nature).
Would love to see what advice you can give to me, I'm relying on the maturity of this audience due to the userbase that exists on these forums.
I can't speak on behalf of girls, but I wouldn't like any fancy way or covert ops way to ask somebody out.

Wanna go out with me? Just say it....

Oh, and be specific. Don't say "we will do something you want" - you have the initiative, you choose the first date for her and she may or may not accept it.
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keeveek: I can't speak on behalf of girls, but I wouldn't like any fancy way or covert ops way to ask somebody out.

Wanna go out with me? Just say it....

Oh, and be specific. Don't say "we will do something you want" - you have the initiative, you choose the first date for her and she may or may not accept it.
I'm willing to take initiative in organizing where the date is, I just want to do something original that balances out my nervousness. The message will certainly almost basically read "Will you go out with me." - I've already organized a planned spot based on both of our interests.

I'm hoping she will be happy that I actually took an opportunity on one of her interests, to ask her out.
Post edited December 11, 2012 by Nroug7
To be honest it sounds like you're on to a winner there. Girls do not normally play footsie with guys they don't like...

How much text space do you get on a message like that in Pokemon? I'm guessing you're not going to have enough room for a heartfelt declaration of love... Maybe just something like "Go out with me?" or "Can I buy you dinner?"
Confidence. Walk up to her, flirt, laugh, ask her to do something. If you can't just do that then you likely can't get a date with her anyway.
Just do your thing whatever that may be and you'll be fine. If you worry and overcomplicate matters too much you'll just get nervous and worried, not fun.

edit: if you worry you'll get worried, bravo Fenixp, real intelligent.
Post edited December 11, 2012 by Fenixp
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Nroug7: I was thinking of doing it through attaching a Mail to a gift pokemon and trading it to her (She plays alot of pokemon, and it was my first game when I was young ^.^) as a unique and somewhat original idea.
I thought this was kind of sweet. If this is what she is really into, I think it is a good idea.
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StingingVelvet: Confidence. Walk up to her, flirt, laugh, ask her to do something. If you can't just do that then you likely can't get a date with her anyway.
I can do the rest, And I did plan on asking her out verbally but this pokemon idea is probably something she might find more creative and better since it is one of her interests, and therefore, might be a better option.

The location I planned on asking her out to was a park, I can cover a wide variety of activities there, we can just talk, walk around, hell, even exercise (she loves bike riding) if we want too. There's tons that could be done at that type of location. Plus, It has some nice water views.
Post edited December 11, 2012 by Nroug7
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Nroug7: snip
When you go out for your first date, don't eat anything too greasy, to messy, or anything that gets easily stuck in your teeth.
Send her a link to this thread, let's see what she thinks.

In all seriousness, it doesn't matter how you do it. Just ask her out. She already knows you; she already has the answer, only needs the question. And that park sounds like a great location for a first date. Good luck!
I think it is better to just be direct. There is nothing wrong with being shy but I think these things are best done face to face. If your nervous that's no big deal. Most girls I think would be a little flattered that you are a little nervous when you ask them out (makes them feel like they are a catch). As for being physical I would take is slow and go on a few dates first and just be yourselves and not think too much about it. These things are best done at there own pace, which is differnt for everybody.
The park sounds like a good first date. Personally, I like low-pressure first dates because then I'm under the illusion that the guy in question isn't expecting to get sex because he paid for an expensive meal or what-have-you.
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JaqFrost: The park sounds like a good first date. Personally, I like low-pressure first dates because then I'm under the illusion that the guy in question isn't expecting to get sex because he paid for an expensive meal or what-have-you.
Well I'm certainly not looking for sex straight off the bat and why should a guy expect it just because he paid for a meal? That's not a gentleman, that's just a guy pretending to be a gentleman to satisfy his own physical needs while leeching of someones emotional well-being.
The pokemon thing qualifies as a great romantic thing to do later on if all goes well. Little thoughtful surprises like that show you are fond of her and will make her feel special. Save that one for later though.

The most important thing is simply to just be yourself, the guy she already likes. I agree if she is playing footsie with you it seems pretty clear she likes you.

I think the park is a great idea. The next time you are speaking to each other in person, just come right out and ask her. Keep it simple. Just ask her if she'd like to go to the park together, mention things you could do there, etc. My guess is she will say yes.

If she does say yes, try to relax and just enjoy the time with her that day. Be yourself. Enjoy her company. At some point get your courage up and tell her you really like her and thank her for coming to the park with you. Beyond that, just enjoy the time talking to her as you normally would. It's okay to be shy sometimes. It always better to be your true self. If she likes you, she'll find that endearing about you. Don't worry over it.

Hopefully she says yes to a first date and all goes well. Be ready with a follow up. You might say something like, "It was fun being with you today. Want to <whatever next date idea you come up with here>? Maybe you could get together for some gaming fun, go out to eat, see a movie, etc. I'm sure you'll come up with something. :D
Truth be told, none of this matters one bit. She has already decided whether she likes you or not. There are some things you should avoid, though, such as:
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StingingVelvet: Confidence. Walk up to her, flirt, laugh, ask her to do something.
Unless you are naturally confident and have always acted like that towards her, this will come off as awkward and make you even less confident as you will be playing a role. Just be the guy she knows and (presumably) likes.