Densetsu: Just be yourself.

Try not to overburden yourself with it; that is, do not ponder over it too much. It might all just pile up in you and suddenly you will have this huge deal going on in you and maybe nothing going on in her, and that might be a painful experience. Love can be a curse as much as a blessing.

From my youngster days, I can tell you that the longer you will wait, the more complicated the situation might become and, consequently, the more difficult it might become for you to take that first step. Worse still, some guy might jump in right in front of you out of nowhere.

So, generally if you wait, it won't make things any easier for you. Unless she is also your good friend. If that's the case, you have a major problem and you need to decide what is more important to you; an attempt at having her whole, or no risk at losing what you already have.

Lastly, I would always recommend doing this in person, but, if you feel like your invitation might turn out awkward (you said you're shy), then go ahead with your plan, why not. Oh and if she goes and you two are not friends, make both of you a favour and bring her to some public, ordinary place, for a drink or a snack or something for the first date. It will help the atmosphere and help you rid yourself of the nervousness. From what you posted, I suspect that you will have it.

And don't worry about the topic(s). Just go along with the flow. Be spontaneous and don't worry, you will in time learn it is not a big deal.


Anyway, good luck! :D

Ravenvolf: Dude, just ask her out. Keep it simple no gimmicks or notes, talk to her. Don't text or email or anything, just ask her directly.

Ravenvolf: All those things are very nice and definitely worth doing, but probably best when asking her for another date later on.

The best thing is to go straight in and don't be obtuse, just say "Would you like to go out on a date with me". Just bam and get it out, haha.

That's my opinion anyway, too many people falter by trying funny things, a lot of girls like a direct no nonsense aproach, at least the first time.

Good luck to you mate, hope it turns out well.

Thunderstone: As a girl and one of the rare female gamers, I can tell you to just be yourself. There is no need to be awkward, we don't bite. Every girl is different, and relationships are about give and take.

Although, be sure to have a respect for her personal space, there was one guy I dated who did not seem to have an understanding of personal space. I think he just wanted sex instead of a relationship he kept hinting he'd like to move onto it someday. We were together for only 2 weeks, b/c he wanted to progress the relationship faster than I felt comfortable with.

When you start dating her be sure to start things off slowly, so this way you can both get a sense of how far you want to take the relationship. Allow her to get a chance to really know you and allow for the romantic bond to develop. It sounds like you have the friendship part down, that is a good start but allow her to get used to the new relationship. This is also something that would be good for you as well.

One thing about girls, is that sometimes we tend to be a bit too afraid of hurting people's feelings. It is not that we are leading you on, but sometimes girls can be afraid to say no in fear of hurting someone's feelings. If she starts hinting that she is busy, consider this a red flag sign. Although, it could be the case that she really is busy, but if it happens frequently then that is most likely a no.

With that said, onto the lighter stuff. Since you are both gamers (I'm assuming you are too) maybe take her out to a video game or a comic book convention. Do something you both like to do, maybe take her to a pokemon tournament if they have any around. Go see a movie, just find something you can both bond over. You don't even have to spend money, just going out for a walk at the park is a pleasant thing to do. Maybe a romantic moonlight walk ;)

Females are human too, and like most people most of us just want to be treated as people too. Just remember to have fun, after all it sounds like you guys have a good foundation to build your relationship :)

I agree with Densetsu, do it in person. Although, keep the pokemon mail thing in mind for a Christmas card. Gook luck Romeo

Nroug7: Yeah, At this point I'm looking at just asking straight up.

Egotomb: Personally I could never trust a girl that plays Pokemon, but that's just me.

Lionel212008: snip...

Lionel212008: You can see it in a girl's eyes if she is really into you. More than anything you should feel it in your gut. Regardless, women expect that you make a move. How you ask her out is up to you............ Get creative if you like. Normal is boring.

Here are some common IOIs(Indicators of interest)

*She re-initiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build Comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age (make her guess)
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She's disagreeing but laughing
*She's punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like somthing, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heart-breaker
*On her way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have isolation with you
*She will flirt with other guys and look at you just to check your reaction

Courtesy:Your friendly neighborhood sociopath : )

OldFatGuy: Damn. I'm oh for forty.