I could totally understand that public proposals issue, It's really a forced situation and it would be a horrible spot to be in.

I suggest you avoid the cinema at the very least. I suppose the idea is that if you watch a movie with someone you'd have something to talk about if you don't know each other, but it feels unnatural and forced to me. Watching a DVD film might work out better since you don't have to take other people into consideration and you can turn it off if either or both of you loses interest. Say, you rent a film by random and it happens to be Resident Evil: Apocalypse or Human Centipede.

I don't want to come across as the dick I am, but do remember she might reject you. If this happens, please don't become a whiny brat who wants explanations or wants to try anyway. Some women probably appreciate such behaviour - makes them feel desirable or whatever - whereas others would find it pathetic. This is my personality speaking again, but you'd be better off as soon as you let go.

To me, that would be a perfectly acceptable date movie! lol Hate it when the guy assumes we should watch romcom just because it's a date.

So, when are you asking this girl out anyway?

Honestly? Soon, Otherwise I run the risk of missing the time window. How soon? Maybe within the next week.

Maybe this week? I was thinking today would be good. There's no time like the present. For all you know, she is waiting for you to ask. ;-)

Tomorrow sounds a lot better than next week. Today sounds even better if your constitution can handle it!

I would love to do it today, but she is out of town for 2 days or so and I have decided that face to face is the best option.

I meant this week, yeah, lol. Tired, my bad.

Hmm, the suspense is tough. Well, don't waste any time when she comes home and keep us posted.

The way I see it, I've just got to put my shield away and use my sword (Meant in a metaphorical, non-sexual way. lol, there's so many ways such a sentence could be misread O_O)


If you didn't get that, I've just got to be a little bit less shy and a bit more confident XD

Can I ask how old this woman is, just out of curiosity?

You don't need to be confident to ACT confidently. Just gather yourself for a minute and go and ask her.

Also are you really asking for advice on how much physical contact to have with a girl? Resisting the urge to be crude here just go with the flow, perfect is bland and boring, the little stumbles are where the fun is.

18, We're both fairly young lol.
Which makes things more difficult :S

Just be yourself.

Try not to overburden yourself with it; that is, do not ponder over it too much. It might all just pile up in you and suddenly you will have this huge deal going on in you and maybe nothing going on in her, and that might be a painful experience. Love can be a curse as much as a blessing.

From my youngster days, I can tell you that the longer you will wait, the more complicated the situation might become and, consequently, the more difficult it might become for you to take that first step. Worse still, some guy might jump in right in front of you out of nowhere.

So, generally if you wait, it won't make things any easier for you. Unless she is also your good friend. If that's the case, you have a major problem and you need to decide what is more important to you; an attempt at having her whole, or no risk at losing what you already have.

Lastly, I would always recommend doing this in person, but, if you feel like your invitation might turn out awkward (you said you're shy), then go ahead with your plan, why not. Oh and if she goes and you two are not friends, make both of you a favour and bring her to some public, ordinary place, for a drink or a snack or something for the first date. It will help the atmosphere and help you rid yourself of the nervousness. From what you posted, I suspect that you will have it.

And don't worry about the topic(s). Just go along with the flow. Be spontaneous and don't worry, you will in time learn it is not a big deal.


Anyway, good luck! :D