I don't consider myself a starving artist as I've only dabbled a little bit on my own and have other sources of income (basically doing the same thing in the link I'll link later in other trades). This will sound harsh (hey, you said you were sick of people not wanting to be confrontational and saying that they like your stuff) but the unvarnished truth is that no one gives a shit about you or me when it comes down to business.
This does a pretty good job explaining what I mean. Even if you became popular and people started buying your music like candy, it's so they can flaunt how hip
they are with trends or so they can feel like part of a group or they think it represents something about
them, not likely because they care about
you.
A quote from Tweak "No dudes. look. It is is OBVIOUS to anyone who thinks more than 5 seconds on the subject. Why do people pay big sums for anything?
Its to fulfill a dream! This is the guiding principle under making money. Why does Newbie #2 here want the vintage 64 Mustang? Why does Princess Noobia want the big house by the ocean? Why do people spend thousands on a special mud that makes them feel 3 years younger for 24 hours. Don't you get it??
But people are not going to spend 99 cents to buy your song at iTunes even if they know you. But they might give you $50 to $500 for you to help them get
their song on iTunes which is
their dream." They would do this because they are not good at it but you are and you can help them. For the right price, of course :) Don't undercharge. Maybe make music for a local TV advertisement or a jingle for a transition in a sitcom.
Some might consider this to be selling out or that it's not the American dream but it's how an unknown can grind and make some money and grow a studio, that is if your goal is to be able to make some money with your skill-set. If an independent, private person then makes enough and reinvests, one can then choose to take time off to work on something personal if one wants to. This isn't a guarantee for success either though. If you're inspired to create something, that's a good thing and I encourage you to make it for yourself, but it usually doesn't make you money.
Another thing is that the industry you're trying to break into has been built to be a jackpot or poverty industry. The internet is helping somewhat to mitigate that aspect, but it's still that way for the most part, and the odds of having a hit (jackpot) are slim. I've also found to not try to mix business and friends, as friends are often least likely to be willing to pay and they think I should give them some kind of deal. It's best to deal with professionals and people who want what you have to offer.
Well, this post might be a little depressing, but I do hope that link or something else in this post helps and you can find more success.