iainmet: Yeah basically, one day to much to drink (he was an alcoholic, drank between 3 and 4 litres a day) and my mother was really ill. Got home from work 30 mins early on this day. He thought I was skipping work and laid into me, bruised all my throat and fractured my cheek bone also from a kick in the face. Needless to say he got prosecuted for it shortly afterwards. My mother divorced him and he got locked up for six months. He died a few year ago and I did not attend the funeral.
He had knocked me down onto the floor and put my face on the side of a bed, then knee into my lower back and started pulling on my neck with his forearms bending me backwards. Still haunts to to this day at times.
I guess it has made me a better person for it, when my kids are acting up I would never think of laying a hand on them.
Life goes on though, get by. Thankfully I can still get about, only downside is I had to leave a decent high paid job last year in I.T as I cant stand for to long or sit in the same position for to long either.
Well, it's good you didn't propagate the behavior, because it can go either way.
A strong contrast with my adoptive father.
He's the most even tempered person I know. Sometimes, he has this nervous energy and gets agitated (which really gets on my nerves), but I've never seen him scream (beyond calling for someone) in my life.
He's even had a calming effect on my ma which has a stronger temperament (never got physical, but when she got angry, she'd sometimes call me names and keep going and going and going until I'd have a mini-breakdown... to this day, I have zero patience with temperamental women because of my experience with her... she has more than her fair share of good sides mind you, but I can only handle one such woman in my life).
So much in our lives is out of our control I suppose. It's very arbitrary.