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My last relationship was 20 years ago. It lasted 3 days and I haven't touched a girl since. There was this girl I went out with ten or so years ago but I found out after (and my hand to god this is a true story) she was gay but didn't want her parents to find out for fear they would disown her so she went out with me to keep up appearances.

So, how is everyone else doing today? :P
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tinyE: My last relationship was 20 years ago. It lasted 3 days and I haven't touched a girl since. There was this girl I went out with ten or so years ago but I found out after (and my hand to god this is a true story) she was gay but didn't want her parents to find out for fear they would disown her so she went out with me to keep up appearances.

So, how is everyone else doing today? :P
Cr*p tiny you can cheer us up every time :P
Fat guys can get laid and be in relationships. Some of them are even pretty good at it.

Here: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=156366953

Now, I am a 6'2, tall pale guy and can't tell you this from experience and I don't know the bloke above. Still, women are wired a little differently and some girls(who are pretty hot) get turned by nerdy, fat guys - women have all sorts of weird taste....luckily for us since your looks are not the be all and end all in the dating game.

However I do know a fat, ugly guy who sort of gets the girls. They are not girls, I'd want to be with but he still gets girls who are genetically better looking than he is.
Post edited January 31, 2014 by Lionel212008
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tinyE: My last relationship was 20 years ago. It lasted 3 days and I haven't touched a girl since. There was this girl I went out with ten or so years ago but I found out after (and my hand to god this is a true story) she was gay but didn't want her parents to find out for fear they would disown her so she went out with me to keep up appearances.

So, how is everyone else doing today? :P
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blotunga: Cr*p tiny you can cheer us up every time :P
Hey man, no blues over my way, I'm cool! :D

Just a tad lonely but I'm still doing better than 99% of the rest of the populace. Most people my age had to get up and go to work today. Technically so did I but as an innkeeper in a snow storm being at work means hanging out in my room playing Settlers and pestering you fine folks. :D
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tinyE: Hey man, no blues over my way, I'm cool! :D

Just a tad lonely but I'm still doing better than 99% of the rest of the populace. Most people my age had to get up and go to work today. Technically so did I but as an innkeeper in a snow storm being at work means hanging out in my room playing Settlers and pestering you fine folks. :D
Well, if you're happy, then way to go :). If not, then get up that a** and do something to change it ;)
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tinyE: Hey man, no blues over my way, I'm cool! :D

Just a tad lonely but I'm still doing better than 99% of the rest of the populace. Most people my age had to get up and go to work today. Technically so did I but as an innkeeper in a snow storm being at work means hanging out in my room playing Settlers and pestering you fine folks. :D
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blotunga: Well, if you're happy, then way to go :). If not, then get up that a** and do something to change it ;)
fr33kSh0w2012 has something for that. (sorry, couldn't resist)

For OP, I'd recommend joining a gym. You'd get some experience being around people and get a bit of exercise at the same time. It might help you work on yourself.

Girls can be tricky. The trick is that there's no single solution. They're all their own person. I have little advice that will help except to go out and start seeing who you are and what you like.

I don't recommend clubs. Girls tend to just put on a face. You don't meet girls, you meet actresses' characters.

Good luck!
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angrypole: I am just wondering what the percentage of goglodytes who have never been in a relationship. It seems like many of my friends have never had any kind of romantic life. I wonder if it something to do with us, or if you guys are in the same situation. I just turned 23 last week, and it seems like I am doomed. I don't know if it because of the way the media portrays it, but it seems pretty devastating if you let it get to you. I am not going to lie though, I am overweight, socially awkward and still in school (becoming a teacher). I just wonder that if in two years, when I have my bachelors degree, it will be too late to pursue a meaningful relationship. For example, I was just stood up today on a date to see the last showing of Gravity. It feels terrible to get that text that they are not going to be able to come, then having to respond to them the next day or whatever. I don't know what to do. I feel like moving to another country, where my social awkwardness is perceived less strongly. Mexican women seem like fantastic people and great cooks.
Get a punching bag and hit it at least one hour a day. You'll solve the overweight problem, and make you feel better in general .
I don't recommend trying to get one just to have one.

I personally never had much success with relationships (being schizoid had a lot to do with that).

In college, I had girlfriends, but nothing to write home about. Hell, even in the Army I didn't have a single one.

But I eventually met someone on, yes, eharmony, and we've been together ten years. We met when I was 33.

I think one of the worst things to do is to pay attention to what mass media tells you your life should be about. Only you know what's right for you, and trying to "measure up" to all the conflicting messages of commercials and ads is useless (let's face it, all they're trying to do is get your money by making up arbitrary reasons as to why you're not "good enough").
I am 27 now. Have had a few girlfriends owing to luck no less. I was good looking when I was younger but then the dreaded hair loss problem cropped up. Mostly my inability to find a new gf has to do with a lack of confidence and bad genetics.

Also, I no longer elicit the same response that I once did from women. I am also not one of those people who would look good bald, I think.

Don't know what my options are at this point. I tried being a pick up artist - worked out well. Even got a date with an 18 year old and a kiss too but it didn't go any further than that....the hair loss thing has gotten worse off late....If anything it makes me insecure... anyway, I'll find a way out of this..that I will.
Post edited January 31, 2014 by Lionel212008
Sigh......
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Lionel212008: the hair loss thing has gotten worse off late...
You should do what my dad does: Just shave it all off and try being an attractive bald guy rather than a desperate balding man.
No worry OP. Im 250 pounds, not talkative at all and a lone wolf (I like being alone most of the time). The things that I changed to help me find the splendid woman I'm still with is
A: Persistence
I decided that I really wanted to find someone so I started talking to friends, friends friends and randoms to find people I dig socially and then moved to asking them if they were interested in getting a coffee or some lunch on the weekends or something and from there, just kept my cool (Done by making myself believe I'm hanging out with a new friend and nothing more) and waiting till things got a bit more personal before asking them to dinner and maybe dating.
B: The Concept of Fishing
The concept of dating is for me, similar to the concept of fishing in a few respects. The first point is accepting that failure is common and catching the best ones takes time. Secondly, baiting for fish is similar to the way you put yourself out as a potential datable guy. if you dress like a bum (No offense to those that do), smell anything but good (Taking good showers in the morning and using deodorant with the option of some colon) and behave badly in public (picking one's nose outside of a bathroom) then your just lowering your chances of attraction. Think of it like this, every effort you make is like adding a percentage to your success rate of finding someone to date and while the percentages are not clearly defined, every effort you make just adds to your chances so the more effort means greater chances.
C: Find someone you'll be happy with, not someone to make you happy
You must also understand that being with someone means compromise, dedication and a bit of work to make successful. If your with someone with the expectation that they are going to MAKE you happy means your doing it for the wrong reasons. Spend time not thinking of your failures but of what you have done successfully and what you want to do. Get your things straight so that when you find someone who has their stuff in order, you can both work towards your goals while spending time with eachother, hopefully till marriage, etc.

Just my 2 cents ^u^


Edit: I'd also like to point out I tried dating sites like OKCupid for a year+ and eventually came across my partner randomly on Facebook. She knew a friend of mine from a casual social encounter at a Starbucks and they became Facebook friends. Her and I commented on a picture of my friends and we met there so yeah, you never know where you'll meet them so always be on your guard ^u^
Post edited January 31, 2014 by ninjaman999
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DieRuhe: I don't recommend trying to get one just to have one.

I personally never had much success with relationships (being schizoid had a lot to do with that).

In college, I had girlfriends, but nothing to write home about. Hell, even in the Army I didn't have a single one.

But I eventually met someone on, yes, eharmony, and we've been together ten years. We met when I was 33.

I think one of the worst things to do is to pay attention to what mass media tells you your life should be about. Only you know what's right for you, and trying to "measure up" to all the conflicting messages of commercials and ads is useless (let's face it, all they're trying to do is get your money by making up arbitrary reasons as to why you're not "good enough").
That's good to know.

One thing I would like to point out is that the various schizo* disorders tend to be incompetently treated. Which is a shame because they're very treatable, it's just that the methods being used just making things worse. I used to be schizoaffective, but I've worked that down to schizotypal over the years, and I probably wouldn't have ended up schizoaffective if I had been getting competent medical treatment.

There's a ton of really good research coming out these days, and repairing and replacing the essential pathways is very much possible. Curing it would be a bad idea as it's traumatic to change ones world view that significantly, but those disorders shouldn't be as debilitating as they often are.
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fr33kSh0w2012: That Wolfish Grin!
And this one!
Wolfish grin! by ironshrinemaiden yep you have to master these things!
Stupid Twilight pussy shit. [url=http://i101.photobucket.com/albums/m59/SmugGiba/SMUG.jpg]SMUG! SMUG! That's how you get the ladies. You're just not allowed to overdo it.
Every time I converse with a woman for more than ten minutes she starts mentioning her boyfriend even when it isn't even relevant to the discussion.