Soccorro: You shouldn't think about it too much. I have made the experience, that falling in love makes you ridiculously courageous, so i think youll be able to talk to your crush. I never fell in love but there were a couple of girls who stalked me for some time. And they were known to be very shy. One of them was always waiting for me in class and grabbed my hand as soon as i entered the classroom. I don't know why she liked me. I have a "F*ck y*u" personality. One of those personalities who are very direct and sometimes insulting.
I think I may have a roughly similar personality. I don't speak a lot, but when I do, I speak my mind whether the other person likes it or not. I just don't do subtlety very well in everyday conversation. I don't deliberately go out of my way to insult people, but if there is something negative to say to someone, I almost invariably do.
Now, obviously, this can be problematic: for instance, my ex eventually stopped appreciating this trait, because whenever she would ask me something, there was a very real danger that the answer would actually reflect what I thought of a given matter rather than what she wanted to hear (not always mutually exclusive, of course), and I got fed up of her asking questions when she clearly wasn't interested in hearing the truth. However, honesty ranks very high in the list of things that people want from a partner or a friend; the closest of my friends have told me (independently from each other, no less) that, at the end of the day, my complete lack of pretension is one of the most important reasons why they like me. When you talk to me in real life, you'll be talking with the
real me rather than a facade, and that in itself is of great value to many.
