langurmonkey: I feel I have to post one more time because it seems a lot of people don't get my first post in this thread.
I"m not leaving GOG general discussion. It is a wonderful place of giveaways and interesting threads that have much information on one of the things I love in my life(games). In my opinion, this forum is the #1 place to go to for gaming related information. The gaming deals thread alone is priceless. I'm just not going to share my thoughts anymore(after this post) because there is nothing to gain from this except a headache due to me being unpopular. I do not get off on offending people or making people angry etc. FYI once I was like a lot of you guys. Reading books like the Art Of Seduction etc. Very polite in an American kind of way, always making sure, every word that came out of my mouth or on the internet from me, didn't offend anyone except maybe less than 1% of the population. Always pleasant to be around. I'm not a young person. 10 years ago I was in the Army. Then one day, I totally started understanding this quote.
"It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not." and this is how I live life now. Everything has a price in this universe and being yourself is not easy because freedom has a price. People will be nasty to you if you don't bend to all their expectations or behave different. That is human nature, unfortunately. I think bullying people is wrong though and would like to see it end. But "It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are not." so yeah, I'd rather get bullied then not be myself. All of you who didn't down rep me, recently, please have a nice day.
Have you not heard anything that people have been saying? The point isn't to conform. Nobody is telling you to conform. Nobody is telling you that you have to pretend to believe things you don't believe, or pretend to be something you aren't. The point is to not present any unnecessary reason for others to hate you or to be offended by what you say. The point is to figure out how you can relate to the rest of humanity without needlessly stepping on everyone's toes. You can't punch a hornet's nest and expect to escape the stings. If you are rude or abrasive, or develop a history of posting thoughtless and offensive things, people are going to fight back. Either you accept that and deal with it (hi, Roman5!), or you tailor your behavior to be less abrasive. Expecting to be able to say and act however you want without any repercussions is frankly ridiculous.
Ok, fine... per your own request, here's what I think, rudely and abrasively: I think you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, suck it up, and fix your side of the problem instead of whining about being bullied. None of this "I'm going to take my ball and go home" crap. You say you were in the military? Act like it. Stop acting like a drama queen, stop trying to paint yourself as a martyr. Yes, it sucks to feel like a community is ganging up on you. I'd feel the exact same way were I in your shoes. And I would hope that someone else would tell me what I'm telling you right now. I'm not saying this because I get any joy out of lecturing you, or anyone. It's advice that I think is for your own good. You can decide for yourself whether or not I'm full of shit. Maybe I am. It wouldn't be the first time, and it won't be the last.
How can I stop sharing my thoughts with the forum if you guys keep responding to me and telling me I'm wrong like I'm some kind of twit with mental problems? How can I just stand around and see people talk shit about me. Some of you guys are thinking that I should conform and I don't want to. It can't be more simple than that. Sometimes you have to step on everyone's toes in order to be who you are. I am feeling sorry for myself because I'm only being myself. Get it? I'm not broken. I'm not faulty yet a bunch of people treat me like I'm a rapist or a pedophile or something like that. Am I too abrasive? OR are people just too fucking sensitive? And what is with all this you are a "drama queen" shit. I never said, I'm leaving GOG general discussion and never coming back. And the GOG community was my #1 hangout spot so not sharing my thoughts here anymore is a big deal to me. In fact, there are hundreds of users here, a lot more "drama queen" than me. I think we are all guilty of being a drama queen, once in awhile. Can you honestly tell me, you have never acted like a drama queen once in your life? Anyone accusing anyone of being a drama queen is an asshole in my book. I respect Roman5 if people give him a lot of shit for who he is and still he chooses not to conform. He may be this or that but it takes strength and courage not to cave in to an angry mob. And strength and courage, I respect.
orcishgamer: Because clearly the only two choices are:
1) Be an unhappy conformist, pretending to have an opinion you don't.
or
2) Have an unpopular opinion and not care about being a dick.
Furthermore there is no difference between:
1) Having an unpopular opinion
or
2) Being abrasive
Yep, I can see your problem...
Wtf, dude?
In addition, Andre Gide was talking about puritanical moralistic constraints being imposed on society, hint: he was gay. I question your interpretation more than a little.
EDIT: By today's standards Gide would be considered a paedophile, but technically he promoted pederasty.
What if who you are is a "dick" in the eyes of some people. Then that is who you are. If I'm a dick, then I'm a dick. So be it. I don't a give a fuck what Andre Gide was talking about. His words made me realize something. And no need to attack his character in order to attack the quote. Does it really matter what kind of person he was?
