And just what is "being yourself"? Who is that person that you feel the need to be? You're the one who gets to decide who that person is. If you're not happy with the results of who that person is then you should consider making some changes to him. If you are happy with the results then what is there to complain about?

Yes, being abrasive and impolite to people is a huge hindrance but people should stay loyal to who they are inside, no matter what. That is what I believe. You can make life a lot easier by not stepping on toes but is that the right way to live? Not in my eyes. I believe people shouldn't cater to others if it means they have to become a different person. That is like telling your true self "Fuck you, I hate you". I have too much respect for myself and love for myself to not be myself. Of course, I believe people should conform when in the military(because it is your duty as a soldier to conform) or at work(because your employer is paying you to conform) or when someone has a gun to your head(because nobody wants to die). But outside of work, the military in a safe place, I think people should be themselves even if that means I personally will find them extremely annoying. I also believe when you are being yourself, you are being honest and open with everyone around you. That is why, people should appreciate people being themselves even if they find some of such people extremely abrasive.

I am all for being true to yourself and not compromising your beliefs. I just don't understand why being polite somehow undermines the "true you". How is stating an opinion politely rather than bluntly/abrasively changing you? Or, do you just take pride in being abrasive and daring people to (dis)like you?

Maybe I am missing your point, so please correct me if I am wrong. It seems to me that you are saying that you think a person should be allowed to be a jerk, and then other people should just put up with it because that is who that person really is? That just isn't the way the world works. For obvious reasons, people tend to dislike and ostracize people whom they feel act in a distasteful manner.

Seriously, I just don't understand your view here.

I have been loathe to say it, but I tend to agree. More and more this thread is resembling a pity party more than anything else.

Edit:
Wait, I take that back. I suppose that it how the thread started too.

Anyway, I wish langurmonkey all the best. We all go through rough times, and it seems like he might be going through one currently. I hope everything works out for him going forward.

The more I read this thread the more I cannot help but think about this part of the George Carlin bit on "rights":

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWiBt-pqp0E#t=8m32

Yes, yes, yes!

How am I acting like a wuss? Grow a spine? I don't understand. This thread is not a people are being mean to me thread so I'm running away thread. It is originally, a people don't like me thread so no point of sharing my thoughts here, thread because I do not enjoy having to constantly defend myself like I'm a German soldier at the Eastern Front after every fucking post. It is unpleasant and changing who I am is not an option. You are starting you act like a troll or you are smoking something. If someone's "true self" demands they give me a punch in the nose for being my "true self", I'm okay with that too but of course, I'm going to defend myself. I'm not going to tell him, he is wrong, he is a wuss, he is a drama queen, he needs to change, he's a dick etc.
Of course, it is starting to resemble a pity party because people are constantly forcing me to explain myself...If people would shut the fuck up already and stop talking shit like calling me a wuss or a drama queen out of their assholes, then I'd shut the fuck up too.

well if people downrep you here too then at least there are options ;)



(jk. but it looks like they didn't so solved yes?)

I believe I just explained it, by saying you value your rugged individualism no matter what the cost while claiming that downrepping is some horrible form of bullying. The latter act gives the lie to the former, it's pretty simple.

If you think it's okay for someone's true self to punch you in the nose for you being your true self, I guess you'll have to accept people downrepping you as an expression of their true selves. Make sense, or will you obstinately back peddle on this too, or pretend not to get it?

It's funny, you don't really seem to appreciate other people being themselves. Maybe only you have the right to be yourself, and everyone else should conform to that?

Down reping is a horrible form of bullying here at GOG general discussion. And I think people shouldn't be bullied for being themselves. But people who bully people for being themselves are being themselves, yes. But I think bullying is a behaviour so horrible that I do wish to see it gone from this Earth even if it means, some people wont be allowed to be themselves. Oh well. And as you can see, I'm paying the cost for me being me. I really don't understand you. Your brain is going from A B C to G, just so you can attack me as a some spineless wuss.
You are very observant.

Repeat after me: "My beliefs are inconsistent."

"Only my individualism truly matters."

"I would force people to not be themselves, but demand that they let me be myself."

"I am a tough, individualist that will be myself no matter what, but please don't hurt my feelings!"

If you don't like any of those statements, that is indeed what you've communicated to almost everyone here. Was that your intention?

If you don't think you're getting anything positive out of sharing your thoughts here then all you needed to do was stop sharing your thoughts here. Lots of people make that decision all the time- no need to make a thread announcing it to everyone. Which leads me to believe that either you're lying to us about why you created this thread, or more likely you're deceiving yourself about why you made it. If you simply find all of this enjoyable then go ahead and keep at it, but if it's a case where you're continuing to engage in all of this despite it making you annoyed and unhappy then that's usually a sign that it's time to step back and engage in a bit of introspection to try to figure out what's actually going on in your mind.

I dunno man. I know this type of thing has been said a lot of times before, but
I'm getting a definite GameRager vibe. It's not just the whole rep thing, but I remember GR talking about being true to himself and being an asshole a longtime ago.