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Posted December 14, 2013
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tinyE: Yeah, but I'll be getting busy with mine when the washing machine breaks flooding the kitchen with sudsy water causing her to short out. So then I'll be forced to travel to the "forbidden zone" to get another one and to do that I'll need to hire a tough as nails yet sexy zone guide to get me in and out alive. Well one thing will lead to another and I'll end up falling in love with the guide leading me to abandon the robot and fly out of the forbidden zone with the guide in tow rather than the robot.
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monkeydelarge: This post was inspired by a good movie. :)
Yes indeed, i just watched that movie again a few weeks ago. :)
Posted December 14, 2013
Some good wisdom to be had in this thread. Thanks all for sharing your experiences. I'm realizing that material goods do not define a person. Kind of funny, coz I consider myself leaning towards the Buddhist mentality, but I get caught in the trap of wanting more a lot.
Posted December 14, 2013
Atleast you have a job and other good things going for you.
Alot of people who can't say the same.

Anyway light therapy, either in a hospital or get your own lamp http://www.amazon.com/Philips-goLITE-BLU-Therapy-Device/dp/B001I45XL8
Posted December 14, 2013
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lugum: Atleast you have a job and other good things going for you.
Alot of people who can't say the same.

Anyway light therapy, either in a hospital or get your own lamp http://www.amazon.com/Philips-goLITE-BLU-Therapy-Device/dp/B001I45XL8
Thanks, lugum. It's so easy to fall into the trap of "Woe is me" that I forget just how good I have it.
Posted December 15, 2013
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lugum: Atleast you have a job and other good things going for you.
Alot of people who can't say the same.

Anyway light therapy, either in a hospital or get your own lamp http://www.amazon.com/Philips-goLITE-BLU-Therapy-Device/dp/B001I45XL8
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Leucius: Thanks, lugum. It's so easy to fall into the trap of "Woe is me" that I forget just how good I have it.
Which state is your home state?
Posted December 15, 2013
This might be pretty weak advice, but I'm saying it anyways.
Think about the little things that have happened, and that you have done in your life. Ever bought someone a gift? Opened a door for a stranger? Wished someone a happy birthday?

There are countless little things like those I mentioned that people have done for me. Some of them made my day, some have pretty much saved my life. During some of my absolute worst depression, a friend gave me a little paper heart with a bird embossed on it on Valentine's Day. It is difficult to explain why, but the fact that someone actually thought to acknowledge me that day literally may have saved my life. To this day, about 8 years later, she has no idea that that paper heart had any effect on me at all.

My point is... Sometimes when I am feeling like a total miserable failure who can't do anything right, I try to remember some of the little things that I have done for people. I think it is the little things that matter most. When I can remember a hundred of the tiniest gestures that people have done for me - some kind words, a kid giving me a rock he found, a letter someone sent me... Surely a few people have remembered something small that I did for them. Maybe a couple of my tiny gestures have had a major impact on them.

It may be silly to think about that stuff, but it brings me a bit of comfort that I may not be 100% useless.

I'm sorry if that didn't make any sense. I'm tired, and a bit out of it. I'll slowly back out of this thread now...
Posted December 15, 2013
Ah, depression even though you should feel fine..That must be a nighmare to the next level. I mean, most people who feel a little down has some very specific reasons for it but if you can't find much why it happens it's like depression coupled with despair.

Once I get down I like to go down to the basics, making sure the things the body needs are satisfied so I go look at:
Maslow's hierarchy of needs

If you believe his theory was correct you need to fill all of the requirements in the first to reach the second and so on so stop thinking about relationships or self-actualization for example in case you're freezing or burning up on a daily basis or as simple as feeling unusually tired or hungry.
Posted December 15, 2013
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Nirth: Ah, depression even though you should feel fine..That must be a nighmare to the next level. I mean, most people who feel a little down has some very specific reasons for it but if you can't find much why it happens it's like depression coupled with despair.

Once I get down I like to go down to the basics, making sure the things the body needs are satisfied so I go look at:
Maslow's hierarchy of needs

If you believe his theory was correct you need to fill all of the requirements in the first to reach the second and so on so stop thinking about relationships or self-actualization for example in case you're freezing or burning up on a daily basis or as simple as feeling unusually tired or hungry.
I find it funny that one of the physiological needs is sex when getting laid is almost impossible without meeting some of the safety needs. It's like life wants you to fail.
Posted December 15, 2013
Meh. Home ownership is overrated. I'd rather rent.

And by the way, not to shine the sun on anyone's pity party, but I'm going into the best holiday season ever in a long time. After two years, I've finally found a paying job; better yet, it's one that I love. On top of which, few things chase the winter blues away faster than having money to pay the bills.

If it helps, there's a physiological reason for seasonal depression, connected with shorter days. If you haven't already, try natural light therapy: basically, tricking your body into thinking the day is longer and that spring is coming sooner.
Posted December 15, 2013
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Leucius: I'm stuck in a vicious cycle of depression at the moment. I keep reminding myself of the good things I have in life, such as a comfortable apartment, good neighbors, good community, a job, etc but I'm feeling a bit depressed because I feel from time to time like I've failed.

I know the past is in the rearview mirror, and I know I can't change the past or make up for lost opportunities, but it still gets me down.
Although the past is in the rear-view mirror it is often something we find at the front of our minds.

As for jobs I am just thankful to even have one. I got depressed about it earlier in the year when I was demoted (I was stripped of my position so it could be cut up for three other people), and had a little over £4000 pay cut. It really got me down, especially at the time, but then I listen to people I know with "good" jobs who's companies have forced them onto 0 hour contracts and I remind myself that things could be worse. I at least know I will have my wage at the end of the month to pay for things, my friends do not know until the end of the month how much they might have available to pay their bills, or if the company will even bother to pay them full stop for the next month.

The world is a nasty place run by psychopaths who are telling everyone else how to live. They make others feel bad because that way they can feel better about themselves. It is hard, but we just need to live the lives we can and be happy about ourselves.

EDIT :: fixed spelling mistakes.
Post edited December 15, 2013 by 011284mm
Posted December 15, 2013
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AdamR: This might be pretty weak advice, but I'm saying it anyways.
Think about the little things that have happened, and that you have done in your life. Ever bought someone a gift? Opened a door for a stranger? Wished someone a happy birthday?

There are countless little things like those I mentioned that people have done for me. Some of them made my day, some have pretty much saved my life. During some of my absolute worst depression, a friend gave me a little paper heart with a bird embossed on it on Valentine's Day. It is difficult to explain why, but the fact that someone actually thought to acknowledge me that day literally may have saved my life. To this day, about 8 years later, she has no idea that that paper heart had any effect on me at all.

My point is... Sometimes when I am feeling like a total miserable failure who can't do anything right, I try to remember some of the little things that I have done for people. I think it is the little things that matter most. When I can remember a hundred of the tiniest gestures that people have done for me - some kind words, a kid giving me a rock he found, a letter someone sent me... Surely a few people have remembered something small that I did for them. Maybe a couple of my tiny gestures have had a major impact on them.

It may be silly to think about that stuff, but it brings me a bit of comfort that I may not be 100% useless.

I'm sorry if that didn't make any sense. I'm tired, and a bit out of it. I'll slowly back out of this thread now...
Honestly, that's not weak, it's a fantastic post. And I can absolutely guarantee that the small things you have done for other people will have made a difference - so don't stop doing them.
Posted December 15, 2013
Profound. I'm speechless. You guys have shown me hope, which I lack from time to time.

There is hope for the human race, after all.
Posted December 16, 2013
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Leucius: There is hope for the human race, after all.
Well I wouldn't go that far... Let's just say, GOG general discussion is full of awesome, deep, wise and intelligent people and this place is the true center of civilization. :)
Post edited December 16, 2013 by monkeydelarge
Posted December 16, 2013
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Leucius: Thanks, fortune, I needed a laugh.

Yay just heard back from Schizophrenia.com regarding my book - appears they are not interested in a collection of poetry written by a schizophrenic.
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tinyE: I'll be 38 next month, haven't been laid since I was 19 and I live with my parents.

Feel better now? :D
I can change that for you, as long as you pay for travel expenses :D
Posted December 16, 2013
I wanted to retire at 30. Now I'm almost 32 and retirement is not in sight :/.
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