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I think an instructional video is in order ^^'...
Rowan Atkinson and Angus Deayton to the rescue
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lih75e6Rb8A
If she likes sushi, that means she has it all the time, stay away from a sushi dinner. Do something interesting not centered on a meal. Dont "take it slow" go as fast as possible. If you feel oddly about her good chance shes knows it, turn that crap on its head. Be something shes not anticipating. Thats not to say be something youre not, but get out there and show a side she hasnt seen.

(EDIT : poor spell'en...)
Post edited September 21, 2012 by muttly13
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Rohan15: Take it slow. I suggest a nice dinner, maybe a walk through a nice park or something, maybe a film?
This is a strong idea. I would recommend some movies both of you could probably enjoy:

Salo, or the 120 Days of Sodom
Baby Blues
I Spit on your Grave
Antichrist
The Enigma of Kaspar Hauser

Really though, I am always a fan of going out and having a few drinks for just a couple of hours as a first date. Short and sweet, and you can tell if you dig each other. I think drinks at a restaurant bar is better than eating at a restaurant or sushi so you can be a bit louder in your conversations. I hate having to try to keep my voice down in restaurants if we both want to laugh at something.
Post edited September 21, 2012 by da187jimmbones
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da187jimmbones: This is a strong idea. I would recommend some movies both of you could probably enjoy:

Salo, or the 120 Days of Sodom
Baby Blues
I Spit on your Grave
Antichrist
The Enigma of Kaspar Hauser
They could also spend half the day watching episodes of The Cinema Snob.
I got a lot of great first date ideas. But I got the feeling you won't like them ... ;-).

(Eg. The whole "bring a hooker to a first date" can be awesome, but it can also be very awkward)
I agree with those that say first dates should be bright, public, and something where you interact. My first date with my now wife was at a public pool - probably only a good idea if you're both somewhat athletic, but it turned out excellent for us.

First lots of people around and things to do to get over any initial anxiety (this pool had a swing rope, diving boards, etc.), and then near closing when we were more comfortable there was almost no one else left and we could hold each other and listen to the music.

Well swimming might not be something you like, I think it's a good template. Maybe bowling, roller skating, or the arcade. Avoid situations that put a lot of pressure on you to talk in the beginning since you're uncomfortable, but avoid situations that prevent you from getting to know each other at all like watching a movie. I also avoided alcohol on dates, but that depends on your motivations.
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Lionel212008: I met this interesting girl and asked her out - she was the one who made the first move though.

Now she's pretty - except that she comes on a little too strongly at times and has a penchant for wearing black while being somewhat reminiscent of Mortica Adamms - which scares me a lil.Okay, I dig goth girls while not being a necrophile even though I do write dark fiction.

She is cute though and I am a tad bit confused since we are exact opposites .She is talkat ive- am not and even zone out at times if I get bored.

It ain't my first relationship. Have been in two long term ones where I nearly got married once and have had several random short term flings.

...Ostensibly, I am a bit intimidated for the first time in my life with a chica. Because on one hand she does scare the crap out of me while on the other I am attracted to her.I am a bit clueless now but I spoke to her on fb and we do have a few things in common - a liking for the color black, sushi and oriental movies.

Would anyone throw me a bone out here about how I can go about doing this?

I know that I have to be myself but I think that alone is not enough - "You have to be your best self"

btw I am 25 and she is 22. She was the one who asked me out - well she literally proposed.I am a little 'overwhelmed' shall we say...
Don't overdo it on the first date. Stick to something simple. The more 'fancy' dates are way more effective when they come along down the line (fourth, fifth, etc).
I wouldn't recommend dinner, it's too formal.
For a first date I'd recommend just doing something trivial but also interactive, preferably one that suits both of your interests and keeps the conversations going (the last one I did was an art gallery, though that was probably a bit too much).
Just going for a drink is not at all a bad idea though.

Just don't do dinner, or lunch, or any mealtime for that matter. It's too formal. You will be sitting opposite her which is bad. You can obviously pick the venue strategically, like one where you can sit next to her for some touchy-feely, but I wouldn't recommend it because as a result of you having posted about this on a forum for old internet games, you are obviously not good enough to pull it off. No offence intended.
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Lionel212008: No films, coz a girl friend of mine said - hw ru guys going to get to know each other if you keep staring at a screen for most of the time?
That doesn't make sense. You can talk to her before and after the movie. Also, this is only part of the date, you can always take her somewhere to eat after the movie. Well, at least this is what i usually do.
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Lionel212008: I am not so sure that she likes flowers. She - well is like a draculina....
But what type? Toreador? Ravnos? Nosferatu?
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Vestin: It's a bit like a game of Starcraft - you should establish new bases once you can safely secure the previous ones - not sooner nor later.
LOL. This is actually true.
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lowyhong: But what type? Toreador? Ravnos? Nosferatu?
If she's a Malky, I call dibs ;P.
Ja, that went off well. I half expected to see a woman clad in black but she was dressed in white sans the atrocious nail polish.So on initial impressions, she is not the pretty evil mass murdering psychopath that I imagined her to be.

We didn't quite do anything fancy- just had a coffee, a stroll and got to know each other a little bit. Evidently, I am an introvert and she an extrovert- but other than that we have a lot in common. Strangely enough she understands me well.We're meeting again pretty soon. It was a public place so I haven't quite gotten to first base yet but she seemed fairly comfortable 'round me. Anyway let's see how it goes from here.

BTW it's a good thing that I kept my trap shut about my very machiavellian schemes for world domination.And I had to keep telling myself that Tobi is a good boy after all.

On Record:It's not that I don't have game - I do. I have even tried sargeing where to be very honest I have been successful without getting a hold of a ready reckoner on attraction tips or something;I didn't pursue it too much though .Also for a while I quite feared intimacy. Well, I prefer doing some background research before I take the plunge so that is why I asked.Yea I understand that it is a gaming forum but the advice here has surprisingly been more useful that on the PUA forum which was actually very gimmicky. The community on GOG is filled with some very fine individuals who carry a keen sense of erudition. Also,I don't quite take kindly to the perception that gamers are pimply, prickly faced teenagers or something who live shackled up in their basements, drooling up on hentai characters or masturbating to porn. IMO it is incorrect to form a perception about someone based on their hobby which is rather preposterous when you think about it.

She also doesn't drink alcohol - quite a bummer. So the wine idea is out of the window for now.Anyway, I wasn't planning on something of that sort .
Post edited September 22, 2012 by Lionel212008
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Lionel212008: ...
Well save for Vampire: The Masquerade jokes :-P Anyway, extrovert vs introvert with a lot in common is exactly what me any my wife have, it works great. She does all the people stuff and I fix the internet :D And congrats on the successful first date, I hope it'll eventually build up to something special!
Why....Thank you. : )

Good to know that sort of thing works.

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Lionel212008: ...
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Fenixp: Well save for Vampire: The Masquerade jokes :-P Anyway, extrovert vs introvert with a lot in common is exactly what me any my wife have, it works great. She does all the people stuff and I fix the internet :D And congrats on the successful first date, I hope it'll eventually build up to something special!
Post edited September 22, 2012 by Lionel212008