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I met this interesting girl and asked her out - she was the one who made the first move though.

Now she's pretty - except that she comes on a little too strongly at times and has a penchant for wearing black while being somewhat reminiscent of Mortica Adamms - which scares me a lil.Okay, I dig goth girls while not being a necrophile even though I do write dark fiction.

She is cute though and I am a tad bit confused since we are exact opposites .She is talkat ive- am not and even zone out at times if I get bored.

It ain't my first relationship. Have been in two long term ones where I nearly got married once and have had several random short term flings.

...Ostensibly, I am a bit intimidated for the first time in my life with a chica. Because on one hand she does scare the crap out of me while on the other I am attracted to her.I am a bit clueless now but I spoke to her on fb and we do have a few things in common - a liking for the color black, sushi and oriental movies.

Would anyone throw me a bone out here about how I can go about doing this?

I know that I have to be myself but I think that alone is not enough - "You have to be your best self"

btw I am 25 and she is 22. She was the one who asked me out - well she literally proposed.I am a little 'overwhelmed' shall we say...
Post edited September 21, 2012 by Lionel212008
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Lionel212008: She is cute though and I am a tad bit confused since we are exact opposites .She is talkat ive- am not and even zone out at times if I get bored.
You know, that's fairly normal :-P And good, mostly.

Anyway, sounds fun. Why on earth would you be rightaway scared? Does she creep you out or something? Because that doesn't sound like basis for healthy relationship :D
Take it slow. I suggest a nice dinner, maybe a walk through a nice park or something, maybe a film?
It's the black nailpolish that she puts on.
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Lionel212008: She is cute though and I am a tad bit confused since we are exact opposites .She is talkat ive- am not and even zone out at times if I get bored.
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Fenixp: You know, that's fairly normal :-P And good, mostly.

Anyway, sounds fun. Why on earth would you be rightaway scared? Does she creep you out or something? Because that doesn't sound like basis for healthy relationship :D
A film is a bad idea for a first date, don't u think?

Was thinking of having an evening date?...do u think that's a good idea?
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Rohan15: Take it slow. I suggest a nice dinner, maybe a walk through a nice park or something, maybe a film?
Post edited September 21, 2012 by Lionel212008
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Lionel212008: A film is a bad idea for a first date, don't u think?

Was thinking of having an evening date?...do u think that's a good idea?
Go out for sushi. Talk to her while you enjoy your meal. If you can't carry on a convo with her, then it's probably not going to go anywhere. If you can, problem solved: you'll find out lots about her as she will about you and it will be easy to go from there.
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Lionel212008: A film is a bad idea for a first date, don't u think?
Well unless you know she likes movies... Dinner's always good :-P We all have to eat!
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Lionel212008: Was thinking of having an evening date?...do u think that's a good idea?
Why even ask that? Are you afraid she's gonna turn into a werewolf? :-P
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Lionel212008: It's the black nailpolish that she puts on.
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Fenixp: You know, that's fairly normal :-P And good, mostly.

Anyway, sounds fun. Why on earth would you be rightaway scared? Does she creep you out or something? Because that doesn't sound like basis for healthy relationship :D
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Lionel212008: A film is a bad idea for a first date, don't u think?

Was thinking of having an evening date?...do u think that's a good idea?
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Rohan15: Take it slow. I suggest a nice dinner, maybe a walk through a nice park or something, maybe a film?
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Lionel212008:
Vampires love evening dates! :D
Joking aside, I find evening dates more relaxing than dates at night. Plus, it makes things much more interesting ;)
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Lionel212008: A film is a bad idea for a first date, don't u think?
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Fenixp: Well unless you know she likes movies... Dinner's always good :-P We all have to eat!
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Lionel212008: Was thinking of having an evening date?...do u think that's a good idea?
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Fenixp: Why even ask that? Are you afraid she's gonna turn into a vampire? :-P
Fixed that for you.
Post edited September 21, 2012 by Rohan15
That's what I was planning too. Anyway she's showing me around - hopefully I should get rid of my apprehension before I go tmrw.

No films, coz a girl friend of mine said - hw ru guys going to get to know each other if you keep staring at a screen for most of the time?
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Lionel212008: A film is a bad idea for a first date, don't u think?

Was thinking of having an evening date?...do u think that's a good idea?
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Coelocanth: Go out for sushi. Talk to her while you enjoy your meal. If you can't carry on a convo with her, then it's probably not going to go anywhere. If you can, problem solved: you'll find out lots about her as she will about you and it will be easy to go from there.
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Lionel212008: That's what I was planning too. Anyway she's showing me around - hopefully I should get rid of my apprehension before I go tmrw.

No films, coz a girl friend of mine said - hw ru guys going to get to know each other if you keep staring at a screen for most of the time?
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Coelocanth: Go out for sushi. Talk to her while you enjoy your meal. If you can't carry on a convo with her, then it's probably not going to go anywhere. If you can, problem solved: you'll find out lots about her as she will about you and it will be easy to go from there.
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Lionel212008:
I personally don't watch movies on dates, I use them to critique them much to my girlfriend of 4 years expense. Also, are you new to India?
No.It's just another part of town that I am not very familiar with....We are both movie buffs (especially horror movies ) so if this thing works out then we might probably catch a flick on the next one.Any tips on how I should conduct myself? on kino and stuff? Any serial daters here?
Post edited September 21, 2012 by Lionel212008
Challenge her to a cage match.
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Lionel212008: Any tips on how I should conduct myself?
Oh, come on, man. From the sound of things, you don't have to put on a show. Just be honest with both her and yourself and try to RELAX.

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Lionel212008: on kino and stuff? Any serial daters here?
"Serial dating" can get dangerously close to "objectifying" and I don't think people should be treated as puzzles to crack rather than human beings.
With that being said - do keep in mind that attraction and physical contact are both gradual affairs, so do yourself a favor and try to match one to the other. It's a bit like a game of Starcraft - you should establish new bases once you can safely secure the previous ones - not sooner nor later.
Like others have said, try sushi dinner and just talk talk :).Keep it simple.
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Lionel212008: we do have a few things in common - a liking for the color black, sushi and oriental movies.
Halfway through that sentence I almost thought he was talking about the Sims...
Yep. No need to over think this. Que sera sera;K.I.S.S...
Post edited September 21, 2012 by Lionel212008