Posted June 04, 2023
I understand the irritation. However, keep in mind that language is not crafted in a day.
You can't ask everybody to simply pivot and redo a well established convention they grew up in, even in the span of a few years (yes, it is a big ask, people absolutely need to communicate their thoughts in a way that doesn't feel forced and awkward).
I think at this point, what gender language reformists have too much of are disciplinarians and what they lack are skilled imaginative salespeople.
"guys" is very convenient. It has a warm tight knit inclusiveness to it (not from a gender perspective, but from a camaraderie group cohesion perspective). I can't think of a good substitute from the top of my head. "folks" doesn't have the same vibe. It feels more like you are addressing a bunch of strangers.
So the challenge you have right now is not to ask people to stop using a well established convenient convention and replace it with nothing or poor substitutes. That's a losing proposition.
The challenge you have is to replace it with something gender neutral that feels as satisfying and that will require a salesperson and possibly a poet. You have to win minds here. Carrot, not stick.
You can't ask everybody to simply pivot and redo a well established convention they grew up in, even in the span of a few years (yes, it is a big ask, people absolutely need to communicate their thoughts in a way that doesn't feel forced and awkward).
I think at this point, what gender language reformists have too much of are disciplinarians and what they lack are skilled imaginative salespeople.
"guys" is very convenient. It has a warm tight knit inclusiveness to it (not from a gender perspective, but from a camaraderie group cohesion perspective). I can't think of a good substitute from the top of my head. "folks" doesn't have the same vibe. It feels more like you are addressing a bunch of strangers.
So the challenge you have right now is not to ask people to stop using a well established convenient convention and replace it with nothing or poor substitutes. That's a losing proposition.
The challenge you have is to replace it with something gender neutral that feels as satisfying and that will require a salesperson and possibly a poet. You have to win minds here. Carrot, not stick.
Post edited June 04, 2023 by Magnitus