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Posted May 21, 2021
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kohlrak: The thing is, you gotta learn. I've seen people with the same mentality, they think they can just leave the scenario, go somewhere new, start fresh, only to find the same people with different faces, if you know what i mean. Find out why you're drawn to this BS, and squash it. It's a weird thing, dating: the more you want a woman in your life, the more desparate you are for carnal satisfaction, the harder it is to get it. I can't explain in the most basic terms, here, and i'm getting the impression that you're legally too young for the discussion even if i could, otherwise, so i'll just suffice to say that your dishonesty that results from your despiration and your over-excitability is usually the culprit. To that end, to extend it to the general populous, have the boldness to speak the truth, and if someone says you're wrong, find out if you are or not, without any concern for the ramifications of being right or wrong. Eventually, you'll sort yourself out and, if good people are around, you'll find them. Else, you won't. You only ever attract people to you that are of your level. Dishonest people attract dishonest people and convert honeset people into dishonest people. Look around, dtgreene and I are almost opposites on politics, yet we can co-exist, which is more than i can say for some people. I have the power to hide myself, be a great liar, etc, but what is more fun and amazing is being so damn honest that dishonest people around me are terrified of me (because if you're honest, you don't have to keep as much brainpower in keeping up the lies, and you can use it instead to dismantle the lies and BS around you). Just look at people: see if what they say is consistent with what they do: take yourself for example based on what you said vs what i included. When you start doing that, you find more interesting characters (might not be as honest as you, as that's a rare trait these days, but you do find people whom are much, much more honest and much less manipulative).
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poogry: I feel you, I feel you. And I'm not legally too young to understand. I know exactly what you mean. There was a time when I and my ex weren't dating, and she commented on her past relationships, calling them all full of drama, etc., etc. I knew something was off there. There were also tons of red flags during the relationship. All of this I ignored because of, what you said, carnal satisfaction. And looking back, the thing I said to her that caused her to dump me wasn't just random hurtful words, they were actually how I genuinely felt. Maybe if I had been honest about it, instead of letting it slip at a bad time, I wouldn't have gone through hell for a while.

I'll take your advice and try to be more honest like you said. Just say it, huh? Thanks though, I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to deal with this bull.
The truth is inevitably going to come out, and it's just a matter of when. There's an old children's story called "there's no such thing as dragons," and Dr. Peterson did an amazing analysis of it, and it's very relevant to you. In life, you're going to disagree with people, and some people you just won't be able to get along with. Trying to hide it and pretend it's not the case is only going to make the downfall worse. It's just 10 times easier (even if it doesn't seem so at first) to keep honest, and focus on finding out what the truth actually is, not what you or someone else wants the truth to be. I'm sure we'll someday figure out who killed Kennedy, who Jack the Ripper was, and what happened at Dyatlov pass. Most things in life aren't even nearly as complicated as those, and it'll all eventually come out. It's way easier to figure out everyone else when you don't have to figure yourself out. When Bertha-better-than-you tells everyone how much she hates your guts (because you called her out on her shit when she tried to manipulate you), the people who aren't fond of her are going to see what's up with you, and those who are decent will probably stick around you or try to get you to stick with them. Just be ready incase they're her equal opposites and still manipulators. Eventually, you'll find your people: people love generating crowds of people like them, which is why nerds have all these damned conventions.
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timppu: However, physics was more something I actually liked, because it felt to me like math was being used for real life problems. ...
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Matewis: That's the great pity of highschool mathematics education in many places it seems. Without massively changing the typical curriculum, you could actually include tons of interesting real world problems in high school mathematics.
But of course you are going to need gifted Math teachers which unfortunately I'm not sure are all that common.
I was quite lucky in this respect: all of my math teachers were either good, very good or excellent. Even though sadly they didn't focus a lot on interesting non-abstract problems.
There are 5 cookies, jill takes 2, how man cookies are there?

5, but 2 of them are in Jill's dirty hands covered in covid.

The fact these jokes resonate says everything.
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Posted May 21, 2021
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Starmaker: autist
How cute discrimination again, These people CAN NOT HELP the way they are please refrain from doing that please!
Posted May 21, 2021
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kohlrak: There are 5 cookies, jill takes 2, how man cookies are there?
It depends on what "are" means. Are available to take? Are together in the same spot? ...
"are" is never just "are", because we all know that there are more than 5 cookies in existence.

Greetings,
The-destroyer-of-dumb-jokes
Posted May 21, 2021
High school was mostly a great time for me honestly. Middle school was when I was bullied and hated going, but after my growth spurt no one bullied me anymore and I guess you'd say I was one of the "cool" people in high school. I also had a girlfriend for most of high school so dating wasn't really a stress either.

I did suck at science classes though, and senior year I was very stressed over whether to go to college or not. My parents wanted me to join the military, so that was a tough decision (I chose college).
Post edited May 21, 2021 by StingingVelvet
Posted May 21, 2021
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poogry: snip
That is great to hear, my man/woman. Cooking is also insanely attractive in the dating world too, so you're planting seeds in the right spots for the future.

High school and college / university is a time of self-discovery. You're right with your assessment, so sounds like you've got a good head. Some people don't even figure it out themselves until they're in their 30s or 40s. Take your time and don't let short term failures affect your long term growth and progress.
Posted May 21, 2021
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Canuck_Cat: Cooking is also insanely attractive in the dating world too, ...
For me, it's always been about health/choice/money. I try to make quality, good-tasting food, but it's always been for myself, and/or partner-I-live-with. I'm good at it I guess, but I don't particularly enjoy the activity.

I guess you're referring to "men that can cook". A stupid gender role, now inverted.

I've never done this "dating" thing - it seems such a silly ritual.
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Posted May 21, 2021
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teceem: For me, it's always been about health/choice/money. I try to make quality, good-tasting food, but it's always been for myself, and/or partner-I-live-with. I'm good at it I guess, but I don't particularly enjoy the activity.
Absolutely fair. People can cook for a variety of different reasons as you've said. It's just coincidentally beneficial, which I thought was relevant to poogry and their recent troubles with women.

I guess you're referring to "men that can cook". A stupid gender role, now inverted.
I'm not sure where you got the idea of cooking and gender roles from. What I'm saying is having cooking skills is a great, practical trait in a partner of your genders of interest. In a survey of 2000 Americans commissioned by a potato producing company, 86% of Americans found good cooks as attractive.
Post edited May 21, 2021 by Canuck_Cat
Posted May 21, 2021
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Canuck_Cat: I'm not sure where you got the idea of cooking and gender roles from. [/url]
Is it not true that, historically (in 'western culture' at least), cooking/cleaning/children was usually a women's role? Fast forward to now.... men in this topic: does the cooking ability add an extra attraction to a potential partner? (cooking ability... it almost sounds like an RPG :-D ).
Posted May 22, 2021
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kohlrak: There are 5 cookies, jill takes 2, how man cookies are there?
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teceem: It depends on what "are" means. Are available to take? Are together in the same spot? ...
"are" is never just "are", because we all know that there are more than 5 cookies in existence.

Greetings,
The-destroyer-of-dumb-jokes
I was wondering if anyone would catch that, tbh. I was kinda sad thinking that no one would. Thank you for improving my day. But no, you did not destroy it, you merely added to it. The fundamental problem with the basic math question is that it's an impractical problem while pretending to be entirely practical. It speaks to the axiomatic way of things and the inability of the writer to actually demonstrate a practical use for the lesson at hand. Thus math becomes this abstract, archaic thing that we simply learn for no apparent reason, 'cause the Holy Lo--er--Goverment told the teacher to tell us, and we just don't question these things. Thus, like all religious rules, we thus cannot apply new rulesets, hence the problem with 1/3 programming students failing out of programming classes, or some other abstract math system (convert degrees to radians and your students loose their minds). Everything is cold, hard, set in stone, and symbols can't take different meanings.
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Canuck_Cat: I'm not sure where you got the idea of cooking and gender roles from. [/url]
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teceem: Is it not true that, historically (in 'western culture' at least), cooking/cleaning/children was usually a women's role? Fast forward to now.... men in this topic: does the cooking ability add an extra attraction to a potential partner? (cooking ability... it almost sounds like an RPG :-D ).
A man should know how to cook, but keep in mind that gender roles have all gone to hell now that both people in a household have to work. Notice you can't be a stay at home father, so it wasn't really about erasing genders from roles, but about making money: the higher the supply of laborers means a more affordable price, which just means more people stay in poverty.

But, as far as cooking goes, both men and women should have known how to do it for years. Women didn't exactly go to the front lines to cook for their husbands at Thermopylae. For dating, women seem to be primarily attracted to men who don't need them, while simultaneously wanting their men to suddenly need them so they feel secure.

But, hey, the dynamics of dating is a wholly other topic to be had. We're trying to change thousands of years of human evolution in less than 100, because we're smarter now, see?
Post edited May 22, 2021 by kohlrak
Posted May 22, 2021
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teceem: Is it not true that, historically (in 'western culture' at least), cooking/cleaning/children was usually a women's role? Fast forward to now.... men in this topic: does the cooking ability add an extra attraction to a potential partner? (cooking ability... it almost sounds like an RPG :-D ).
Yes, that was the norm for Eurocentric countries and their colonies in households. Now, anyone who still has a penchant for cooking, cleaning, and other household duties (regardless of gender or their traditional, gender-assigned household roles) are generally attractive than ones who are not.

Yes, I'd absolutely date a woman who prefers cooking over someone who doesn't. Sometimes cooking can be a chore, so it's a bonus if a partner can help me out with preparing meals and being enthusiastic about it helps drive me to cook the best I can for them. It's disheartening for me when my younger sibling doesn't help me out with it because of a lack of interest.

Anyway, I disgress. If it helps OP, another possible stressor for some people related to this off-topic conversation is the social anxiety of eating in front of others. For children of immigrants, they may feel quite self-conscious about the lunches packed by their parents because it was negatively judged for being too foreign. In my experience, this phenomenon persisted until high school against East Asian, Indian, and Muslim students regarding their aromatic and foreign-looking lunches.
Post edited May 22, 2021 by Canuck_Cat
Posted May 22, 2021
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Starmaker: autist
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fr33kSh0w2012: How cute discrimination again, These people CAN NOT HELP the way they are please refrain from doing that please!
Discrimination? In what way? A schoolgirl is not a public service.
Posted May 22, 2021
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Starmaker:
No It isn't about that it is about the word you are using to describe an Autistic person that can be seen as discrimination it has derogative connotations

Would you like it If I called you a Spaz retard, If you had signs of both cerebral palsy and developmental delay?

No you would be the first one to kick up a stink.

Think before you use derogative words, There may be a wealthy user on here with a relative with Autism that might take offense to that word, That could be a lawsuit for you.
Post edited May 22, 2021 by fr33kSh0w2012
Posted May 22, 2021
Highschool was a mixed bag for me, some very good memories, some bad ones too. For the sake of your assignment, here were my stressors:

Puberty. This was a big one (pun not intended). Felt like I was walking around school with a loaded gun 90% of the time. Pre-internet mind constantly buzzing with unanswered questions about sexuality.

Sports. My superpower was "no hands-eye coordination". Gym classes were a nightmare for me. I wanted so much to fit in with the other boys, but sucking at sports was not helping. Nobody wanted me on their team. I was always the last one picked but always the first to be picked on.

Bullies. What happened to me during sports was often echoed outside of the gym class context, such as in the school yard, at the cafeteria or during school trips.

Grades. My dad put so much pressure on me, but my grades were never good enough for him, despite me being an A student. Eventually, this lead to my downfall and not caring about school.

Highschool social life. How to feel lonely in a crowded establishment. I recall wanting to fit in with my peers and at the same time, feeling like I will never fit in. I recall wanting to explore sexually and romantically, but feeling socially inadequate most of the time.
Posted May 22, 2021
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matterbandit:
Are you sure you don't have Asperger's Syndrome? Y/N
Posted May 22, 2021
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fr33kSh0w2012: Are you sure you don't have Asperger's Syndrome? Y/N
Yes, I am 100% certain I don't have Asperger's Syndrome. Was it something I said?
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