awalterj: Humans are tribal animals. Maroon three humans on a remote island and two of them will form a faction against the third because they disagree on how a coconut is best opened. Accept human nature!
Brasas: It's also human nature to love. :)
He (or those with non-binary identities) who loves, also hates. Same hormon involved (oxytocin). So instead of acting inside a love/hate cycle, we should aim for compassion (= understanding without judgment) in situations of conflict. In practice, this means that we should have compassion when we see a turd, and then realize that we don't need to feel annoyed at said turd. Because it would show a lack of compassion especially with ourselves if we waste precious energy having feelings about the turd regardless if it's hating the turd or loving the turd.
(If I figure out how to apply this in practice, I'll let you know - work in progress!)
Brasas: I think we can discriminate and try to bring out the best in ourselves. I don't think we need (nor should) repress the animal to do so.
Repression doesn't work anyway, but transmutation will work so our aim should be to become the best we can be, not just be fake nice. By transmutation I mean that we use the energy for something better than to interact with turds. I came to the conclusion that I can't transmute external turds, I can only transmutate the turd within me. The "Inner Turd".