it does tell a thing on how wrong the world is when people like you post at all.

it seems i was misunderstood when i said on reputation system. again.
first, i am new to this.
second, i told it was a good thing on GamezRanker part, even if s/he had a bad reputaton, which was welcome on my end anyways.

and now, when i finally came up with something to say him, we're no friends anymore.

and that's the kind of thing that keeps going on and on and on.

sorry, all. as said, this was a mistake. thanks to all of you.

The melodrama in this thread is thick.

So, you were trying to start a charity and it didn't work out? If so, that is a very noble undertaking and if it has helped some people, you should be proud of that. COVID has been a very cruel crisis and has caused a lot of problems for a lot of people. Did you try reaching out for government assistance, once you realized you were in trouble?

The thing is, if you want to help others, then you need to help yourself first. That isn't about being selfish, it is just good sense. There is a reason for the saying that, if you are in an accident, make sure you are ok first. Put on your oxygen mask first, before trying to help others. Because, if you aren't fit and healthy and reasonably happy yourself, you aren't going to be able to help many other people.

I guess I am getting a little confused here. You talk about starving families but also 'helping companies'. I assume these are different endeavors you tried? The thing is, either you are expecting to get something in return for some work you are doing, or you are not. In the latter case, you are volunteering or starting a charity. You shouldn't expect to get anything in return (except perhaps taking a modest salary from charitable donations), because that isn't the point, right? The motivation is to help others. In the former case, you are running a business, you are doing it to make money. If you do some work that you are expecting something in return for, you get that agreement in writing. If not, you are simply opening the door for someone to take you for a ride.

If you are doing work that you expect to be compensated for, then yes, always. No exceptions. Verbal agreements and 'honor systems' are worth nothing. I'm not currently working freelance, but I know several people who do and the very first thing they would tell anyone who is considering it is: you don't ever do (a significant amount of) work for someone, without at least getting something in writing first. If they aren't willing to put it in writing, then they are playing you and you walk away. From what you say, it sounds like you've been taken for a ride several times.

I think you and I see things a bit more eye-to-eye than you think. I think the first mistake is somehow accepting this conflation for democracy, when the situation is anything but. Instead of building people up, we're tearing people down in the name of fixing the problem. We aren't helping less successful people improve, we're trying to tear down the slightly successful, which should be a huge indicator of what's going on. Our elites and heroes tell us all about how we need to help the little guy, but instead of actually putting their own head on the chopping block, it's just an excuse to target their competition: the people climbing the ladder. The thing is, most people can't see this, and this, i think, is the real mystery of the current age. We've historically said that we're just too comfortable to question our authority, but we sure as hell aren't comfortable anymore, as indicated by this post. Memes, video games, etc, all seem to be avenues. I think the whole gamergate attempt to invade this sphere was a very smart tactical move by those in power: we're in an age where anyone can make their own game with things like unity. Given the power of games, this is a major threat, and we're slowly seeing this gap being closed, as it's slowly getting harder to make games and your own programs (unfortunately, those who are not simultaneously programmers and into politics aren't likely to see the way the wind is currently blowing, because you need political interest to see something's happening, and you need the coding knowledge to see what it means). It's going to get really ugly really fast, here. If what you're doing isn't working, it's time to try something else. For jobs, i know first hand how you feel and that's not easy to change. The long term partner thing is hard, too, but as long as we continue to be despirate the situation won't improve. Bad actors need to become despirate to improve, where as good people being despirate just means we're in a race to the bottom. Unfortunately the firtility crisis is going to cost a lot of good morals, too. Might be wiser to move more towards taking a different angle entirely: if you can't bring your own kids into the world to learn your way of life, help others who would much rather have a new way of looking at the world (heaven knows, there's plenty out there). In a way it's out fault. We allowed things to get this way. This comment in particular i find interesting. Where the hell are you looking? I find mostly friendly people. I'd like to know why my experience is different from yours. The corporate bullshit here is our fault. It's the fault of the mothers and fathers: we're so damn worried about our 401Ks and so forth. THe average stock is traded every 40 seconds, which means this is a game being played by 2 tiers, and for some reason we can't see how we're being played. Someone needs to get on the math of this and find out how this system is screwing us financially, because that's the only way this sort of thing can go. There's a sinkhole somewhere, and there's no way everyone's retirement funds are getting better, but they all appear to be to everyone, so someone needs to get a handle on this and figure out where the damn sinkhole is and explain it to people, because this is an obvious trap and scam. Do you learn better from playing on easy and never loosing or playing on hard and getting a gameover screen? If all you do is succeed you haven't improved. People need to suffer to improve. This is precisely why things are the way they are: people aren't suffering enough so the powers that be are cooking us like frogs. Instead, the truth of our suffering must be realized. We must see that we're in a pot of boiling water.

Skimming over the rest of your replies, i gotta point out something that's not obvious to people, here, probably due to a lack of experience.

Your issue in particular is a little more tangible than the normal problems.

You want to build a family, so most likely you're straight. You aren't getting the benefits of affirmitive action, clearly, since it's an issue finding a job that pays well, so you're almost likely (but not guaranteed to be) white. Your concern is providing for a family, almost as an instinct, so with almost absolute certainty, you're male. It's a pretty obvious guess given the average gog base.

However, in addition to the usual problems you have with that, you also seem to have some problemsd that are actually uncommon. The question is, why? Why is it you have a hard time finding friendly people when they're all around? While there's certainly a problem with the environment for people like you, there is clearly an additional problem that you're facing, that's unrelated. I sense that you're struggling to interact with people and they're likely lashing out in response to issues you might have underlying that are the result of mistreatment during childhood (not guaranteed to be the source, but it generally always seems to be the case). In other words, not all your problems are necessarily external, and there's something you can do about it, but it's a matter of first identifying the problem.

Normally people who write posts with such levels of depression are existential nihilists and hedonists, but you seem to be the opposite, which, in it's own way, kinda makes this spooky for a number of reasons. Normally the average nihilist looses their hedonism and just offs themselves when it comes to an end, but your understanding that there is a greater issue and an external problem makes you a risk for taking violent action if you spiral down too dark of a path. Frankly, i don't want anyone committing suicide, but your most likely path is a bit darker. I think before we go down any further on this path of "the world sucks," even though it absolutely does, i think we need to acknowledge that there is clearly another problem beneath the surface that, when identified, becomes entirely within your own control.

I don't get it. Everyone's tired.

Life is not for the faint of heart. We carry around what is essentially caveman DNA and like to pretend we are civilized, but we're not really. Just because we shave, wash and wear fancy clothes doesn't make us civilized.

We're tribal to the core and our empathy tends to extend only as far as whatever we consider our tribe to be (can be your family, your circle of friends, your coworkers, your village, your nation, your religion, your visible ethnicity, your political affiliation... or if you're a complete sociopath, yourself only).

We can be civilised, to a degree, but we need to first be aware that we're wired wrong. We are optimized to operate in a setting that is pretty different from what most societies try to be like nowadays.

I have high hopes that they'll fix our genes within the next couple of generations to actually make us more civilized, but until that happens, there are bound to be moments of relative calm interceded by human generated rough patches of intense natural selection.

Best advice I can give you in the love department is, be genuine, but try to prime yourself not to want too much out of it. Unless you're mr Charm personified (most guys aren't and those that are are often pickup artists, don't be a pickup artist), you will fail a lot before you succeed. Most people are not serious anyways.

View dates just as an occasion to meet people and talk, hopefully in a nice setting. If it becomes more, cool, but otherwise, hopefully you've at least had a nice conversation and a nice meal.

Bizarre thread

The score system here means close to nothing, as some(trolls and other malcontented users) manipulate it constantly & most other users up/down vote for their own (seemingly arbitrary) reasons.

That said: that one user is a bit of a grumpy gus, but he's not too bad usually.....and he did post a good bit at the start of his comment.

edit/addition: I am sorry for the delay.....I didn't stop talking to ya, but merely went to bed for the night earlier. I am back now. :)

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Well there are (imo) a number better than me.....still I try.....also thanks for the compliment. :)

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I can vouch for this one....it works wonders for mind and body.

This one as well....making others happier is one of the reasons I myself help out around the forums. Some of us might not be able to change the world to a significant degree, but the little we can do can sometimes make a big impact on some others & improve ourselves in various ways as well.

A pet that requires less work/care might possibly be a good idea for the OP, though.

Take care and good luck on your quest. It was nice talking to you, but, as others have said, I don't think this is where you'll get your answers. They're out there, in the real world. If you were serious about wanting to change things for the better, keep at it, but for now start with yourself.

I suggest you start with constructing proper English sentences with capital letters first.

hi again, guys. i missed some messages as it was getting late but i'll assure you, i'll do my best in replying each meaningfull sentence from each one of you. please consider that as a gesture from someone who is really seeking answers. as we are in 2021, this could be any idiotic thing possible but it's not, i'm a real person who is fighting to find a purpose [the guy who failed in creating a model thru which people could find commited support, isn't curious?!] after trying each and every possible way to gather support from mainly religious [not only christians] people. i must add, i have not become a rebel, i'm still gripped to Christ's teachings, but finally realizing i won't find His ideas practiced by His own people. all of this is not in discussion, whether or not i'm right in my beliefs or anything else, my focus here is to find practical reasons to keep on, eventually making some friends who really care. which i also failed to find, no matter what.