Posted September 28, 2014
HiPhish: No one in their right mind would disagree with this, but that's not what feminism is about. Feminists purely focus on women's issues
What is actually wrong with that though? Lots of groups focus purely on their own interests. What should they be doing? HiPhish: ….and in the early days they had a point. However, today in Europe and North America there just isn't anything left to do for them, they have achieved their goals.
They may have achieved their goals in the legal sense, discrimination against women tends to be illegal, they can vote, work, etc. There is still a fight in a social sense though. The way females are portrayed in the media say, by being photo-shopped into 'perfection' (happens to men too of course but in a different way). By being victims of crimes and how that’s perceived, far too many people will blame the victim when it comes to rape or sexual assaults. There are still massive imbalances in certain work places, sometimes as a result of an overtly masculine working practices, sometimes because young women themselves chose not to enter those professions. People still hold sexist attitudes, and use sexist language. Even in western countries woman can still be viewed as possessions. I'd say there are still goals to be achieved HiPhish: This is where the movement began degenerating, instead of getting equal rights they want more rights.
I just don't think that is true. Yes there will always be elements who want more than might be deemed fair, and there will always be those pushing for equality where simple human biology makes it unlikely. But so many feminists fight for what they perceive as genuine inequality (even if you might disagree that its there), or try and uplift women past their self imposed limits. I actually agree that forcing companies to hire or interview based on sex or ethnicity or whatever else is wrong. Positive discrimination is still discrimination. But then when you look at the jobs where these things apply, they are often dominated by very similar people. People tend to hire others who are similar to themselves, even if they don't know it, so how else can a woman break through into that world?
HiPhish: or being able to get herself pregnant and then milk the guy for for all of his money legally.
Well unless she actually did 'milk' the guy in the first place I'm not sure how he's not 50% responsible. Just as we seem to be on the issue of sexism, I wanted to quote Piranjade's post in full. I'm assuming many of us arguing here are male, as such I do think its worth a read. Its post 944.
RaggieRags: Please stop making dumb generalizations about me. Stop putting someone else's words into my mouth. You're now making this issue an "us versus them" when there are many sides to the whole thing. I've never said I'm anti-gamersgate and pro-journalist, you're just assuming so. You keep misreading me.
What comes to the gaming community as a whole: I've been a female gamer in the gaming community for almost two decades and yes, there is a problem. There is misogyny, and it's been getting worse in recent years. No, it's not just a tiny minority, it's a real problem. I know it personally. I've had to deal with it. You haven't. There is also a problem with game journalism and corruption, has been for a long time. This is not a case of Evil Feminist Journalists versus Innocent Downtrodden Gamers and it's not constructive at all to simplify the whole issue.
Piranjade: I agree. I, as a female gamer, also experienced more harassment in recent years. I cannot put numbers to it and I know that will weaken this point but at least it feels like that those assholes are now more than just a vocal minority. It feels like treating a woman in gaming with more than disrespect has become kind of normal. As has the use of the word "rape". What comes to the gaming community as a whole: I've been a female gamer in the gaming community for almost two decades and yes, there is a problem. There is misogyny, and it's been getting worse in recent years. No, it's not just a tiny minority, it's a real problem. I know it personally. I've had to deal with it. You haven't. There is also a problem with game journalism and corruption, has been for a long time. This is not a case of Evil Feminist Journalists versus Innocent Downtrodden Gamers and it's not constructive at all to simplify the whole issue.
But it is also true that there are still many gamers who aren't like that, who would never say anything like that, who don't act like assholes, who see these people as trolls and ignore them.
I'm at a point where ignoring the trolls (and I don't believe all of them are male) is not enough for me anymore.
All of us, male and female gamers, need to make a change and try to get along better. We need to be what is heard and not the assholes.
And that won't happen if we just dismiss them as trolls and let them carry on, it won't happen if we dismiss what they do as normal because there are assholes everywhere in life, it won't happen if we claim that those people aren't causing a problem.
They are causing a problem by slightly distorting the how gamers are seen (I say slightly because they are many and many more side with them) and they are causing a problem because they are harassing female gamers.
I have experienced it from Half-Life over Diablo 2 into gaming nowadays.
I've seen it in posts on forums including this one.
I even had one user here messaging me "You're the cutest thing I've seen on this site! :D" when engaging in a discussion, which, while it wasn't harassment, I found at least a bit disparaging.
We can all run around and say that there are bigger problems in life ("Corruption in gaming journalism!") but still I'd like to play online without hiding my gender, I'd like to play online without fearing that I'll be harassed. And I think we can do that. I do believe that we can make gaming a "better place" for women (and girls) and for everybody in general.
If we do dare to admit that there is a problem.
Because then we can tackle it.
(A bit old, but remember Milktea? http://milktea-ssbm.tumblr.com/post/76970566292/why-awareness-in-the-super-smash-bros-melee-community )
Post edited September 28, 2014 by chincilla