I think you're drastically misinterpreting. I have never seen feminists advocate women doing less. What I have seen them advocate - and what I agree with - is that men should do more to police creeps. Not laughing at sexist jokes. Not going along with getting a woman drunk/drugged. Basically just treating women decently.

I looked at both those links. I don't think they're saying anything different from me, which is this:

Putting women's defense solely on women is unrealistic and sexist. It's victim-blaming and lets men off the hook for self-control.

If someone is mugged, we talk about police enforcement and how to improve safety for everyone. If a man gets drunk and crashes a car, we talk about DUI laws, bar policies and Friends don't let friends drink and drive or similar slogans. If a woman gets drunk and is assaulted - it's her fault. She was asking for it. She should have been watching out better. Why didn't she learn self-defense? She shouldn't have been wearing that outfit, she looks like a whore, of course some guy took advantage. Why was she drinking in the first place, women should know better. You can see the difference between the common reactions very clearly - one reaction talks about systemic ways to keep people safe, the other says the victim deserved what she got. There's a similar issue with racism, I think the current term is 'walking while black'?

People need to learn to be upstanding moral beings and confront this sexist view that women are solely responsible when they're the victim of a crime. Our society currently commonly lets men off the hook for degrading or hurting women. Look up 'victim blaming' and 'slut shaming' if you want more info. The leaked Sony emails have a good example of this group blindness too - one male executive abused his secretaries for years and no one did anything even after official complaints.

Men need to do their part in making society safe for everybody and stand up when they see people being creeps, much like people of all colors need to stop tacitly agreeing with racism and start confronting the asses who perpetuate it. The creeps don't listen to women, because they don't see women as people worth listening too.