caesarbear: Are you seriously trying to say that a patriarchy doesn't exist? Not form, extent or effect, just that it does actually exist and it worth discussing?
Maybe it's simply I don't view the world the same way as everyone else does, maybe it's the fact that everyone has different goals in life. Some people want families, some people want careers, some people want to travel, others want religious fulfillment. For everyone it's different, and we get these at certain times. Some people spend years before they realize what they want out of life, and some find fulfillment in things they thought they didn't want at all. Hell sometimes those moments are fleeting, maybe they're meant to spur us on. But no, I don't consider the idea that there's this 'force', for lack of a better term, this societal drive that holds people back. Individuals may have trouble, or may cause trouble, but that's based on the person. That doesn't mean society doesn't have it's common ills, but even those happen because of individuals.
caesarbear: and...
then what? You've provided the beginnings of a sketch of a character. How am I supposed to form any kind of judgement on the character or your talents as a storyteller without any context or depth? There's nothing there for me to critique.
Were are you going with this? Wouldn't the issue not be about how sexist or not the character is but whether it's worthy of respect? If you created this character only because you were lazy and just wanted an sympathetic object, then it would be justifiable to say your story is sexist and horrible, no? If you succeeded in bringing enough life into this character so that she became more than a convenient object of the plot then perhaps some ethical journalist will give you a good review, right?
How is it that I only had one person who looked at the description and wasn't uncomfortable with this?
The idea behind it was I basically described to you Guybrush Threepwood of Monkey Island fame. He's incompetent, he's useless, he's barely funny, he's abused, blown up, killed, tied to a stone and thrown off a dock, laughed at, mocked mercilessly, all of the things that we want to protect people from, he deals with. And it never deters him. My concern is that a lot of people are focused too much on violence against women, or sexual violence or sexual gaze to actually care about these people as characters, it comes across as to feeling like a checklist.
Here's the thing about characters, to you they might be planned out, the person knows every step that's going to happen to them, everything has a purpose. For me, it's not, every character lives and breathes in their own way, from Bayonetta to Kratos to Zelda to Yukiko Asagi. They have their own goals, their own beliefs and a certain randomness to their lives.Some of them are bad, others aren't. Again, maybe it's because I have a very unique view of the world and people, I think we've forgotten a few things about being people, especially in the rush to be more politically correct.
caesarbear: I wasn't addressing particulars. I didn't ask about the particulars of drug crime policy. All I'm talking about right now is a disparity of numbers. Factual information only at this point. You just spend a lot of effort, including a touching yet irrelevant personal story in not acknowledging a measurable disparity. It doesn't matter what your interests or suppositions are if you do not take the first step of acknowledging that the disparity exists without qualification. This may be why some people have given you curt replies to the effect that you even have to ask.
You have to acknowledge the issue first. It makes you sound like you are deliberately evasive. No buts, howevers, or attachments of any kind to the basic ideas of a disparity between race or gender. We're not even getting to any qualitative or value judgement, just simply that patriarchy is an actual thing. Racial inequity is an actual thing. Gender inequity is an actual thing. Whether or not they are positive, negative or inert is the second step. But if you can't take the first step then you can't have a conversation about them. And it makes you look like you are denying they exist when they are measurable and tangible.
I'll be fair, I told the story for a reason. A lot of what I saw for privilege comes across as stereotypical, even your explanation went to play with numbers and statistics instead of looking at the people. It's part of the big problem I have with this level of social justice, it talks a lot, it looks at statistics, but it doesn't DO anything on a level people can benefit from.
My Uncle was white male, who always had people cooking for him, driving him to work and to bowling, on the surface he sounds like someone who has a lot going for him in life, it sounds like a life of luxury. What I'm trying to encourage is to look beyond that, look at the personal story before you make a judgement. That privilege comes with a cost, everything comes with a cost. Just because you can't see it, just because it's different from your cost doesn't make it any less a cost.
People are different, that comes with a price, like I said there are billions of people, not one exactly the same, even twins have their differences. Stereotypes and talk of vague privilege understands none of that. Good people will be good people, assholes will be assholes, and everyone else will be everyone else. And all will do it in their own way.