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Posted March 10, 2010
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FourtySeven: The sad part is, although I hate to admit this, I still have some feelings for her. Still hoping that she would come running back to me. What the hell do I do?

I wish it was as easy as to say "don't stick it in teh crazy" but it never is. The fact remains that she chooses to have a relationship with someone she never met over a person that's actually there for her and that isn't healthy behavior. From what I see it it doesn't look like a healthy relationship to be in as she doesn't seem stable enough emotionally to make it worth an investment of feelings and thoughts.
The easiest thing is to move on and try and see other people, girls, even just as friends; if she will someday (hopefully soon) feel that the relationship she's in right now isn't good for her (it may be, no one else but her can know that) she might come back to you. If you're available try and start something, if not, she was too late.
Of course, this all advice is coming from a person who got dumped, got back together, got dumped again, made a new girlfriend then dumped the new one to get back with the ex. Heck, that almost cost me a year of University and a job and those wondering why I suddenly vanished from here last year now know a part of the reason.
In the end it's all about being certain about your feelings, and you can't say that she's the love of your life without seeing if there really isn't anything out there in the close vicinity that is better suited.
I consider that from a relationship both partners need to grow and help each other and from what you described it, that girl doesn't seem capable of such an involvement.
Post edited March 10, 2010 by AndrewC
Posted March 10, 2010
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FourtySeven: Hopefully this will make me feel better. If not, at least it will provide someone with some entertainment.
I decided to get a fresh start and go to college because I was seriously screwing up in university. Brand new school, brand new people, brand new start.
After a couple of months into the semester, I notice this girl in my English class and for some reason, I fall for her. I don't know how and why, I just do. Every time I see her, I would get nervous and start shaking. My heart rate would increase.
After I finally work up the courage to start and talk to her, she was kind enough to allow me to use her locker. With that, I thought I had a clear chance. I finally confess my feelings towards her, like a coward via msn. This is where the "fun" begins.
She tells me that she has had an online boyfriend for five years who just recently broke off all contact with her for a couple of months. She told me that she still loves him very much despite him breaking all contact for no reason.
I am fine with this as I understand that she already has someone and I came to realize what was killing me was the not knowing if I truly had a shot. I eventually get over her in a couple of months. (The day I confessed was the day her boyfriend sent her a text message)
Fast forward to sometime late in January. The girl tells me that she likes me. I am dumbfounded, I didn't know what to think. After thinking about it for a while, the feelings I had came rushing back and I obviously wanted to go for it but she was not so inclined. She told me that it's not going to work out and that she will end up hurting me. After a lot of talking, I started to steer her to my point of view. She told me that she needed to think it through and that she will give me an answer the next day. This is the second week of February.
The Wednesday right before valentines day, guess who decides to call her? That's right, her "ex-boyfriend". Just hearing the sound of his voice, she falls in love with him again. This is just my luck.
I should mention now that she has never met this guy ever in her life, only seen pictures and heard his voice. She hasn't even webcammed with him. I "lost" to a guy who she has never met. Fantastic.
What really pissed me off is that by next week, she has lost all "feelings" for me. She was all smiles and happy while I was there, pissed off and depressed.
The sad part is, although I hate to admit this, I still have some feelings for her. Still hoping that she would come running back to me. What the hell do I do?
Sorry for the long post, if anyone wants to share their insight, I am all ears.

Have you seen pictures of this guy or anything. Maybe shes just lying to spare your feelings. I say forget about the relationship thing and if she likes you she'll ask you out and you can either blow her of or do it and if she doesn't who cares. If you act like an ass as satisfying as that may be people will know your hurt and you'll look like a fool.
Posted March 10, 2010
My copy of Final Fantasy XIII has yet to arrive. I am feeling in the mood for smashing something, and that is a fairly rare feeling for me.
Posted March 10, 2010
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Whitecroc: My copy of Final Fantasy XIII has yet to arrive. I am feeling in the mood for smashing something, and that is a fairly rare feeling for me.

Smash your head with a brick to simulate playing final fantasy.
Posted March 10, 2010
1) Graduated Uni with a Degree that apparently is worthless to all and sundry. £20k worth of student debt though. Huzzah!
2) The crappy job that I had whilst working my way through University is still my only income. Just hard enough to leave me tired and physically drained whilst simultaneously paying so little, I've had to move back in with the parents. I'm currently 28
3)I've been single so long, the last breast I felt was my own. And it still kinda turned me on
4) A combination of beer, eating crap during what is laughingly know as "breaks" and just collapsing on my days off as left me out of shape and filled with shame at what I've become.
Beat that if you can
Posted March 10, 2010
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MoroseMoos: 3)I've been single so long, the last breast I felt was my own. And it still kinda turned me on

Oh FFS
Posted March 10, 2010
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MoroseMoos: 1) Graduated Uni with a Degree that apparently is worthless to all and sundry. �20k worth of student debt though. Huzzah!
2) The crappy job that I had whilst working my way through University is still my only income. Just hard enough to leave me tired and physically drained whilst simultaneously paying so little, I've had to move back in with the parents. I'm currently 28
3)I've been single so long, the last breast I felt was my own. And it still kinda turned me on
4) A combination of beer, eating crap during what is laughingly know as "breaks" and just collapsing on my days off as left me out of shape and filled with shame at what I've become.
Beat that if you can

I barely graduated year 12, Ive only had 2 jobs in my life One was a carny for a day(which was awesome) the other was an auto electrician for 2 and a half days before getting fired even though i was working for free.Ive never felt a breast. im in alright shape and i dont drink though.
Posted March 10, 2010
And people wonder why we gamers get the stereotype of loveless losers. :)
Though I'll through in misery. Lass in work, talking to her for a couple of months. I thought we were getting on lovely, bit of gentle flirting and all. One day, we were talking about movies we wanted to see and she mentioned that she wanted to go see the new (at the time) Twilight film but had no one to see it with. "Alright, I think to myself, this is my chance"
So when I'm at home I check out the film times, locations etc, and I see that it's on for the following week. So I drop her an e-mail asking if she'd like to go see the film and maybe go for a drink after.
BAM!
This was 3 months ago. 3 months of silent treatment, refusing to talk to me about anything even remotely involving e-mail. Lunch hours have become awkward, tense affairs. Now don't get me wrong, I've been knocked back by women before and will be again but the whole silent treatment is just plain puzzling.
Women should come with a manual
Posted March 10, 2010
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MoroseMoos: Beat that if you can

Go back and read the first post and the 2 threads I link to there, I reckon I can give you a run for your money
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Cbyrne: Women should come with a manual

Manuals? Nah they're something you can't really consult in a timely manner during an emergency. As much as they're not popular, I think quick time events might be a better option
Press A to make your move
Press Left Bumper to press left bumper
Press B to duck drink thrown in your face
Press X to not die...
Post edited March 10, 2010 by Aliasalpha
Posted March 10, 2010
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Cbyrne: And people wonder why we gamers get the stereotype of loveless losers. :)

I like being a loser.
I sit at home all day without a care in the world i play games, watch tv and mess with my brothers and sisters who all hate my guts. i do whatever i want.The only thing i don't like about my life is that i have to pay my mum $200 a fortnight in board(leaving me only $50) and i have dial up.I went a month without leaving my house and the only time i leave now is to hand in my job seeker form.
Post edited March 10, 2010 by Salsa_Shark
Posted March 10, 2010
Why the heck are there so many weirdos in Malaysian gyms?
Never seem to encounter these issues when I was in Melboune, Australia.
1. Some guy flash his six pack after every single weight exercise.
2. Some old fart was his private part using the sink (there are shower facilities for heaven's sake)
3. People steal your equipment even when you are using it. (step out for 5 secs and it's someone else)
F@CK Malaysia.
Posted March 10, 2010
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Aliasalpha: Manuals? Nah they're something you can't really consult in a timely manner during an emergency. As much as they're not popular, I think quick time events might be a better option
Press A to make your move
Press Left Bumper to press left bumper
Press B to duck drink thrown in your face
Press X to not die...

More like:
Press A to to stare awkwardly at her
Press Left Bumper to make a crappy joke and enjoy the painful silence after you've told it
Press B to drink a few to many glasses of wine and lunge wildly for the kiss
Press X to ask weep gently into your pint glass as she goes home with the waiter
All the above are actually true life events. I hereby claim the title of King of the Losers!
Posted March 10, 2010
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Cbyrne: All the above are actually true life events. I hereby claim the title of King of the Losers!

I am the dunce of losers. Even amongst losers im a loser.
Posted March 10, 2010
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FourtySeven: Sad story.

Well, mine story isn't good either. I'd say that I have been screwed in a similar way.
I have met her at work, where I was selected to be as a replacement for a colleague who left our company. Same function, another place.
After the shy beginning we started to talk together (and talk a lot), even other women spotted that there might be something between us. I fell for her, and we finally met outside the work. Later she was fired from the work (financial crisis and she wasn't working there for long, so boss said her kthxbye), but we stayed in touch, however everytimes I wanted to meet her, she said she has no time, or such. Fine, it can happen.....but not for almost 4 months. I have met her a few times, but only for a while when she wanted something from me (and I was stupid enough to do it). I called her almost every day (yes, I was THAT stupid).
Then she started working somewhere again and we met once more, all was fine again. Later I wanted to ask her about dating, so we met and after I said what I felt to her, her response was "Uhm, sorry, but I already have someone....blah blah blah.....we are dating since last month, I forgot to tell you that (forgot? O RLY?).....blah blah blah.....he is 9 years older and I love him because he knows what he wants from life (O RLY? again, it sounded as if I was some 12 years old kid who knows nothing)....blah blah <insert another overused clichés here>."
Everytimes I think about it again, it makes me wanna commit seppuku for my own stupidity. *sigh*
Posted March 10, 2010
your stories make me a sad panda
just saying T_T
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