barjed: What should I do when I am the only damned person in this relationship that actually tries to make it work? it's always me caring for her, it's always me helping her, surprising her, giving her flowers on occasions and without any occasion. I give her absolutely everything from myself, my time, my attention. I've never loved anyone this much.

I couldn't think of anything more that I could do for this relationship. And yet, she seems cold and distant. She never remembers our anniversaries (oh the irony), she never cares to do anything nice or special for those occasions (while I literally do back flips to surprise her with something pleasant). She never says any nice things to me (like 'I missed you' or 'It's good to see you again'.), nothing. Not to mention the dreadful, absolutely depressing, long silence when I told her that I love her for the first time (to this day she never ever responded to that). She never let me sleep over at her place (nor she wants to sleep over at my place).

I heard that I have to patient and I try to be. I try to be there for her every day. I never complain to her but days like these, when she's cold and in bad mood make me feel really down.

Bleh, just had to get this off my chest.

Fantasysci5: Congrats!

barjed: What should I do when I am the only damned person in this relationship that actually tries to make it work? it's always me caring for her, it's always me helping her, surprising her, giving her flowers on occasions and without any occasion. I give her absolutely everything from myself, my time, my attention. I've never loved anyone this much.

I couldn't think of anything more that I could do for this relationship. And yet, she seems cold and distant. She never remembers our anniversaries (oh the irony), she never cares to do anything nice or special for those occasions (while I literally do back flips to surprise her with something pleasant). She never says any nice things to me (like 'I missed you' or 'It's good to see you again'.), nothing. Not to mention the dreadful, absolutely depressing, long silence when I told her that I love her for the first time (to this day she never ever responded to that). She never let me sleep over at her place (nor she wants to sleep over at my place).

I heard that I have to patient and I try to be. I try to be there for her every day. I never complain to her but days like these, when she's cold and in bad mood make me feel really down.

Bleh, just had to get this off my chest.

reaver894: How long have u been with her, u used some plurals so that would suggest its been a fair while. Has she been badly hurt in the past, has she always been that way, theres a lot of reasons this may be.

If you want, pm me,(may finally get to use my counciling stuff, waste of a year so far)

orcishgamer: snip

barjed: I hear you but this is not that simple. I am almost sure that she is not doing this on purpose or out of malice, it's the way that she was hurt by some douche-bags in the past that left some really bad stain on her psyche.

I love her, I don't want to leave her. I once read that you have to give everything from yourself in relationship or else there is no point in it. I am trying so very hard, I just hope that one day she sees.

barjed: I love her, I don't want to leave her. I once read that you have to give everything from yourself in relationship or else there is no point in it. I am trying so very hard, I just hope that one day she sees.

Aaron86: Without going into any embarrassing details, the majority of geekish communities are trolls trolling trolls. For all their alleged liberalism/libertarianism, most nerds can be the most reactionary individuals on the freakin' planet.