If you say that "Those of us that respect the creators and the arts don't make tons of demands" I can sake the feeling that "us" is a very small group. Do you remember the Mass Effect three scandal? People complained so hard about that ending that the devs actually changed it to make better. I don't think that was a bad thing. People felt they had been promiced something and that the promise wasn't kept. In general all I is people saying, "I hate this! I wish we had less of this and more of this". If you think that that is a disrespectful attitude..... Well then I guess there's way more disrespect than respect out there
I actually try my best to try every kind of horror. Slasher, ghost stories, satanic, animal themed, vampire, Lovecraftian, old, new, gothic contemporary, western, eastern, everything from Victorian literature to creepy fanfiction. You name it, I've tried it. I like some stuff more than others but that's just being human. It would be more accurate to say that there is a narrow sub-division I can't appreciate. Things like A Serbian Film, Human Centipede, Martyrs, Salo, Philosophy of a Knife. Ones that don't deal in suspense or survival but just heap brutality on the viewer (often sexual brutality 'cus that's the most shocking). I don't like these movies at all because they are (to me atleast) artless and frightless. The existence of this stuff is bad enough but what gets to me is when a haunted house novel suddenly spends 30 pages on a rape scene.
If you want me to give an example that is sorta okay by me, Hell House did it right. Firstly it sets up a world where sexual degradation is part of the plot. Then when we get to the dirty deed it feels like pay off from earlier. The scene actually has bite to it because it not just "Ordinary man raping ordinary woman". And best of all the scene itself isn't shown allowing the reader to focus on the extraordinary aspect of it rather than being forced to focus on pain and suffering. Would the book be worse off without it? No, but it wouldn't be better off either. Atleast it ties into the themes of the book.
I'll confess I have a narrow definition of horror but It's but no mean the narrowest. I don't see why
I Have No Mouth and I Must Scream is seen as horror as though horrifying it never tries to be suspenseful, or spooky or creepy, yadadadada. I'll confess I'm a little disappointed no ones brought it up yet because 1 it's a fantastic game 2 It has both rape and Auschwitz in it.
Want to try and convince me it is horror? Be my guest :)