This is by far one of the lamest responses I've read on the forum. It's a very old way of demeaning a person with sex, as if sex is this great and wonderful thing. It wasn't in my experience, highly overrated. It's just a hole in a piece of meat, let's not go crazy over here. It's like fast food advertised on TV versus what you get when you actually order it.

Most men want something called validational sex. Validational sex is the kind of crazy sex where she tears off your clothes and tells you how much of a man you are, how much she loves your private parts and such. The problem with validational sex is that it is mostly a game. Unless you're someone like Jason Mamoa, the only thing she is trying to do is obtain resources. Very few men ever get this kind of sex, especially after marriage However, men did get it in adolescence, especially before the age of social media where different values were harbored among women. I remember days where it was very difficult to find porn, so if women wanted to see anything like that, they would have to find a guy to have sex with. Toys were also not as well developed. These were times where women were not assaulted with dick pics in their inboxes. Those days will never exist again. The anticipation was the fun part and now that's all over.

What these games mostly do - and I say mostly - is bring back the fantasy of those days. Infatuation and romance, a thing that very few people have these days, you get to experience those illusions within this medium. That's also why women gravitate to this genre, they're looking for the same thing they get out of romance novels and yes, they're here. Except for the fact that some have personally admitted they like the over the top rape and murder fantasies of a game like Kara No Shoujo.

Boiling this down, eroge is where men and women's fantasies meet on the same playing field. It's not like porn strictly for men or women, both can enjoy it. Even if their own marriage is less than spectacular these days and the romance has long since faded, they can at least enjoy some semblance of romance vicariously living through these characters. Also insert obligatory LGBT inclusion stuff because you have Yuri and Yaoi for gay men and Lesbians. Yuri is actually popular with men, yaoi is popular with women. I remember a woman back in the day who used to spam yaoi porn all over the comments in a group whenever she got mad. She had tons of it.

Maybe I'm one of those weird people that doesn't get into actual sex, but I definitely enjoy the sexual fantasy and all the things you can't do as well as behaviors around sex and nudity that existed in my youth and no longer exist anymore. At least for me, I'm no longer in my twenties and heading up to forty. It's fun to jump into a world where everything was fresh and new.

And sometimes, I just like being reminded that sex and romance can also be quite deadly... Depends on my mood.