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Why do people point out when you're nervous? I went to a job interview the other day, the interviewer said I seemed nervous. What am I supposed to say? "Oh you're right, I am, thanks for pointing that out to me. Wait a minute, while I try not to seem so nervous for you." Don't people realize that pointing out when someone's nervous, is not going to make them feel any less nervous, or self conscious? Wouldn't it be better to just politely ignore it?
Maybe they're trying to figure out if you're naturally a bit twitchy, nervous or a tweaked out meth-head?
I understand where you're coming from, but they could be trying to simply address it in order to relieve it for you, not realizing they might make it worse.
It's a way to make you feel comfortable.
Else most of them don't even give a damn about candidates.
I once gave interview for a small post in Google.
I was in top 15 candidates with max marks in qualifying test. I screwed one question and got rejected.
-Nervous?

-Yes.

-First time?

-No, I've been nervous lots of times.
"It was at that moment that I first realized Elaine had doubts about our relationship. And that, as much as anything else, led to my drinking problem."
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tinyE: -Nervous?

-Yes.

-First time?

-No, I've been nervous lots of times.
I flew single engine fighters in the Air Force, but this plane has four engines. It's an entirely different kind of flying, altogether.
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tinyE: -Nervous?

-Yes.

-First time?

-No, I've been nervous lots of times.
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InfraSuperman: I flew single engine fighters in the Air Force, but this plane has four engines. It's an entirely different kind of flying, altogether.
"It's an entirely different kind of flying."
In a job interview, I guess it's a way to break the ice, make the proceeding less formal and more personnal. Depends of the job. If it's a small company, the guy is bound to be nervous too and wants to release some of the tension. If it's a big company, they might want to see how you react when confronted like this.

In less formal conversations, it can be a way to offer support, or to start a conversation, or to bond ("you're nervous? Don't be, it happened to me last week and it's nothing, really" or "Nervous? Me too, they sure take their time.")
- Shiiiiit, maaaaan. That honky muf' be messin' mah old lady... got to be runnin' cold upside down his head, you know?
Air Iran, please clear the runway!
Do you know what it's like to fall in the mud and get kicked... in the head... with an iron boot? Of course you don't, no one does. It never happens. Sorry, Ted, that's a dumb question... skip that.
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Matewis: Do you know what it's like to fall in the mud and get kicked... in the head... with an iron boot? Of course you don't, no one does. It never happens. Sorry, Ted, that's a dumb question... skip that.
Okay so we could do this all day, but I need a nap. :P
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tinyE: Okay so we could do this all day, but I need a nap. :P
And I need to get back to work :-\ Well, perhaps just one more:

- Joey, do you like movies about gladiators?
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tinyE: Okay so we could do this all day, but I need a nap. :P
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Matewis: And I need to get back to work :-\ Well, perhaps just one more:

- Joey, do you like movies about gladiators?
Joey, have you ever been…in a Turkish Prison?