I'm not stalking but I do need to mention something.

Don't get too upset about us grumpy old men and our paranoia ;)

But since this is the internet for all we now you could be the AI of a fridge travelled back in time, stranded on mars and using an alien array to post here and laugh you ass off about our antics instead of an innocent girl. And this IS the internet both is equally likely :P

oh ok thanks

Well... and while we are at it. If you are really the innocent girl you parents at some point probably warned you about that one uncle/stranger in general you should never ever stay alone in a room with / follow in a basement / join in a car. *points at Kleetus* Thats him they where talking about.

BTW is the Mars Roover really as big as Nasa claims it to be?

oh i know that

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i do understand that

Usually when one receives an unsolicited friend request or random PM from a complete stranger they've never talked to before online and have no idea who they were, personal experience tells me to either block the person outright, or to leave them in limbo until I can do a few searches to determine which of the three categories they fit into:

1) Scammer/spammer/troll or similar "up to no good" category.
2) Random person who has no concept of Internet netiquette or social protocols for communication online (and probably not offline either).
3) Someone I know or might know but didn't immediately recognize for some reason or another.

More often than not I'm busy doing something and resolving friend requests on gaming sites is quite low on my priority queue, however when I do get around to it, I check to see if they have messaged me along with the request or not and what substance and context their message has to it if there is one, as well as whether I've ever chatted with them before on the same site or perhaps even somewhere else.

If I have no social context as to who they are or why they've added me as a friend or are messaging me, I probably wont respond at all unless the content of their message seems both friendly and has some real world purpose, ie not just "hey, wanna be friends with a complete stranger you don't know?" No, no I don't want to be friends with a complete stranger I don't know who just messaged me out of the blue for no particular reason. There needs to be a context and some sort of perceived value, even if it is a small one such as a previous friendly forum discussion or something. I'm not a social network "friend collector" racing to see if I can be the first to reach 1000 friends or whatever, so such requests aren't useful or valuable to me.

In general if someone has just created their account, has no public history of engaging with the community at all, and just randomly adds me as a friend and wants to chat -> bitbucket. I'm not a suicidal 13 year old girl desperately seeking someone to acknowledge I exist, I've got better things to do with my time like watch paint dry.

If someone has participated in the given community and appears to have a net positive demeanour, is friendly and seems to understand enough about netiquette and social norms etc. then I'm pretty easy going to trust up front and worry about possibly misjudging later.

But I'll take a wide pass on that "hey, you don't know me but lets be friends, I'm new LOL ASL KTHXBYE" nonsense. Fortunately the majority of people in the community are pretty decent including those of differing opinions etc. most of the time. The weirdos that are exceptions are a small minority, most of whom vanish as fast as they show up.

Hopefully GOG expands the bitbucket technology in the future to give additional options for cleansing electrons. :) In real life as well. ;) If someone shows up at the door of my house completely unannounced and I'm both not expecting anyone and also busy doing something, I wont even go look to see who it is. I'll continue around the house doing whatever I'm doing and I don't care if they can see me through the window or hear me. Everyone has a cell phone these days and can call me from the driveway if they need to.

Online it's different if you know the person and have talked to them before somewhere along the way etc.

Not really interested in chat roulette though. People should get a dog if they're that lonely. :)

To the people saying to block, that's pretty much the worst thing that you can do.

It doesn't stop the person sending invites and makes you appear on their chat list so they can see when you're online.

If you're trying to avoid someone, blocking isn't the answer.

EDIT: I'm still laughing that some of you thought Kayla and I were the same person.

The logic is infallible:

I've sent some invites to a select few people (note the keywords, select and few).

New member Kayla joins up and sends out numerous invites to befriend people.

Therefore, Einstein puts the pieces together and deduces that we're the same person because of the invites.

? What???

iam a women in real life
i have boobs like iam a girl

I am a real guy but unfortunately I'm getting to the age when I'm starting to get real boobs of my own.

I just can't wait for my pubic hair to turn gray so that when I pull down my pants people can say, "It makes your penis look more distinguished."

Nazing personal, no.

>inb4 dtgreene shows up with "Men can have boobs, too!"

Seriously though, you don't seem to be able to realize when people are joking with you. I don't mean to make this place sound terrible, but this isn't just the sort of "randomly make friends with people by saying hi" place. In fact, that's probably a bad approach for a lot of places. You just seem really new to the internet in general, honestly.