Posted August 03, 2014
Please do not take offence at anything I say. It may be harsh and direct, but it is in no way meant to offend.
It's a lovely and noble sentiment, keeping the threads clean and happy for all to enjoy, except some people aren't lovely and noble. They take advantage of the silence, keep doing whatever they've been doing wrong, maybe don't even realise they've done something wrong, or abuse unsuspecting people who haven't noticed their previous behaviour. And they haven't noticed precisely because PEOPLE KEPT QUIET! It's a delightfully vicious circle,no?
So, if you think that you must point out that some "evil" user has received too many codes, even if the person actually giving them doesn't seem to mind at all to gift them to the same person, I think you should consider if it wouldn't be better if, instead of starting the shit splashing fan, you could only write that username down, do a little private research and banning him of own giveaways if desired.
In the end, I think posts like yours, which invariably occur and shut these discussions down, only serve to cover up and subdue a necessary discussion on a pressing issue. I see these occurrences as a very healthy release of pent up frustration by well-meaning members. I know you mean well, too, but sometimes you just have to fight fire with fire. It ain't pretty, but it's even worse to notice something wrong and feel helpless about it
Don't for a second believe I actually want to bother with this stuff! It's a hassle, writing and arguing and accusing. But I've seen and read enough to know someone needs to take a lead. And in the end, well-meaning folks like yourself are the last people I want to argue with. Cheers!
You make it SO easy to be me sometimes! I just wait a few minutes and you post with points that I very much wanted to make myself, and even better, with a far more soothing tone than I'm likely to take. (being someone that wants to just call a spade a spade and not really CARE who gets weepy)
I also believe in everyone who is a Good member here doing their part to police these forums. without that it becomes a cesspool of villains, and greatly reduces the "fun" of all of those well meaning people.
This is a great community, but like anything, you must fight to keep it so. Most of the guilty know who they are, and you see no counters given or even anyone stepping forth and saying "Gee, yea i was out of control, I'll do better"
I see very few accusations that don't prove true, most people will WANT to have their facts straight before they call someone out.
It would be interesting to go through the entire thread and do counts on what was given and taken and by whom.
This was a great thread just a couple months ago, it's a shame it has been so abused.
