Posted February 14, 2016
Necessity is the mother of ingenuity, and of Stop Buying Games self-help groups.
Here's what you can write down on your last will: "To Vicklemos Junior, besides the mortgage on the house I hereby bestow on you my grand collection of mostly unplayed games. I used to just buy games from GOG to launder money from my illegal online cat food store but maybe you can actually play those games. Anyway, all this now belongs to you!"
In practical terms: Instead of focusing on resisting the temptation to not buy games, focus on a fulfilling activity that makes you enjoy the moment and makes you yearn for more. A worthwhile hobby can serve as a catalyst for your neurons to be sent down non-lazy alley. Be curious rather than overly ambitious, that way your feeling of reward is more frequent and greater.
In that regard, following this thread is not essential because once a good catalyst is in place that is much better than focusing on how many days you've been clean and how many days the other members have been clean etc and so on. Nevertheless, this thread has a purpose and that is to share strategies. Different approaches work for different people so it's interesting to see what other come up with. And for some people the very act of verbalizing their problems has a therapy effect so here's a dedicated platform. For some people it might be encouraging to see how many times others have failed until they made progress.
I listed all my so far 40 relapses in the first post. At the time of this writing, I've been clean for 74 days (personal record) and feel confident that I'm on the path to betterment. I don't feel anxious about breaking my winning streak because my whole intention isn't to never buy a game again and win the nonexistent "clean for most days" award. My goal is to minimize the feeling of compulsion when I see games on sale. When I buy my next game, I want it to be not out of compulsion for a quick hormone rush. Instead, I want my next purchase to be an entirely non-guilty free choice.
vicklemos: I know it's kinda creepy but I wonder if those of us who have children already are thinking about leaving our backl...., I mean, legacy for them. Yep, I'm (not yet) dead serious.
This is a very intriguing thought. Some of our members have backlogs that will require several generations. Here's what you can write down on your last will: "To Vicklemos Junior, besides the mortgage on the house I hereby bestow on you my grand collection of mostly unplayed games. I used to just buy games from GOG to launder money from my illegal online cat food store but maybe you can actually play those games. Anyway, all this now belongs to you!"
bler144: I followed this thread for a while, but stopped when it was clear I couldn't actually _stop_.
A turtle can't fly but there's no reason you can't stop buying games. Technically it's just a matter of happy little neurons taking this or that turn inside your brain. When you decide not to buy a game and then go ahead and buy a game, it simply means that you opted to send some neurotransmitters down lazy alley to temporarily distract yourself from unhappiness rather than opting to do something truly fulfilling that will allow you to experience happiness without the inevitable following sugar crash factor. In practical terms: Instead of focusing on resisting the temptation to not buy games, focus on a fulfilling activity that makes you enjoy the moment and makes you yearn for more. A worthwhile hobby can serve as a catalyst for your neurons to be sent down non-lazy alley. Be curious rather than overly ambitious, that way your feeling of reward is more frequent and greater.
In that regard, following this thread is not essential because once a good catalyst is in place that is much better than focusing on how many days you've been clean and how many days the other members have been clean etc and so on. Nevertheless, this thread has a purpose and that is to share strategies. Different approaches work for different people so it's interesting to see what other come up with. And for some people the very act of verbalizing their problems has a therapy effect so here's a dedicated platform. For some people it might be encouraging to see how many times others have failed until they made progress.
I listed all my so far 40 relapses in the first post. At the time of this writing, I've been clean for 74 days (personal record) and feel confident that I'm on the path to betterment. I don't feel anxious about breaking my winning streak because my whole intention isn't to never buy a game again and win the nonexistent "clean for most days" award. My goal is to minimize the feeling of compulsion when I see games on sale. When I buy my next game, I want it to be not out of compulsion for a quick hormone rush. Instead, I want my next purchase to be an entirely non-guilty free choice.