Posted December 16, 2016
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Alaric.us: Nothing at all. Those are equally unneeded. That's the point.
Sending someone a rock is like sending someone flowers. It's an entirely useless item, which serves as a proxy for conveying a certain message. It's just that in our culture flowers are the standard way of doing this.
mystral: I disagree. When you have enough money to buy pretty much anything, then the most valuable things become the things you can't buy, most notably time. Sending someone a rock is like sending someone flowers. It's an entirely useless item, which serves as a proxy for conveying a certain message. It's just that in our culture flowers are the standard way of doing this.
More specifically, I'd be way more appreciative of someone who baked me a pie, or offered some other thing that showed they had put some time and/or thought into it, than just someone who bought some random expensive thing.
So I'd agree offering flowers in and of itself is worth about as much as offering a rock, but sending the right flowers (i.e. ones that the person really likes) is worth much more simply because it shows you put some effort into the gift.
Generally none of us require actual sacrifices from our friends and family to prove to us that they care. I certainly don't want my father baking me a pie (likely burning down the estate in the process) and then mailing it to me across 2000 miles. =) A simple call will do. Or a postcard. Or a rock.
And once again, I do agree that it's stupid. =) Absolutely. But since in our culture we are used to physical tokens, most people have the desire to give something tangible to others. Doesn't matter what. Maybe a common mineral. =)
It's kind of like when you walk up a mountain with your girlfriend, find a pebble there, break it in half and each of you keep a piece. The pebble in itself is useless and worthless, but you can assign some meaning to it, which may make it valuable to you personally.
Post edited December 16, 2016 by Alaric.us