Gilozard: 1)I have seen no evidence that people who say they will vote for Trump are getting harassed on any kind of a significant scale. Trump supporters
have been recorded as harassing others for disagreeing with them, and then claiming they were the victims of harassment.
Hear no evil,
see no evil,
feel no evil,
etc. Come on, man, you have to be mendacious, completely uninformed or wilfully blind to deny it. I'm not saying this to portray Trump supporters as an innocent hivemind that has done no wrong, but the rank bias and sheer refusal of yours to acknowledge an observable reality is rather telling.
2) Right-wing Christian/survivalist extremists are absolutely the most dangerous group currently in America. This is not debatable, by any statistic. I don't know how you're getting your numbers (focusing solely on publicly known abortion clinics?) but there's really no doubt about this.
You can check the numbers on
Wikipedia, for starters, or anywhere else, for that matter. You won't find data that supports this tone-deaf, utterly out-of-touch stance of yours,
especially when trying to imply that it's somehow a much greater threat to the West than Islamic extremism. It has absolutely no basis on reality, and, honestly, can only thrive in a completely sheltered, indoctrinated existence.
3) I see a lot of emphasis on being unhealthily buff, not showing emotion, constantly aggressive and a lot of pushing to have tons of sex aimed at guys
Masculinity
is, at its core, about strength, having control over one's emotions, aggression (a very misunderstood and misused word) and having sex (i.e., spreading your seed), and women respond to it. Being a man is about balancing these in varying degrees (not every man is or needs to be buff or display more aggression than everybody else or have as much sex as Casanova, for example) with a productive life, taking responsibility for one's actions. You can choose not to do so, but will be treated accordingly by your peers and the opposite sex, no matter how many essays on gender studies you throw against this biological reality.
'toxic masculinity' is things like "real guys don't cry / show emotion"
They definitely need to have more control over their emotions, as is expected from a provider/protector/leader. There's a big gulf between weeping when your son dies, and turning on the waterworks when reading news about starving children in another continent or when your classmates bust your balls.
"men and women can't ever really be friends because sex"
Sex isn't the reason.
"men aren't good parents"
That one's actually on toxic femininity.
"being interested in 'girly' things is bad and wrong"
Not 'bad' or 'wrong' per se, but it's definitely weird, and girls will react accordingly to it. So, unless your son is gay, you'll be doing him a disservice by encouraging it, or - even more worryingly - pushing it upon him to show everyone how progressive you are.
being really, really pushy is OK because 'real men' have lots of sex
There's a line between persistence - which is an absolute necessity if you want high-value women - and being pushy. That you can't tell the two apart leads me to believe you don't have much experience in that area.
thinking it's ok to abandon your girl if she gets pregnant
Nobody thinks that. Nobody high-fives anyone over that. It's not masculinity, toxic or otherwise - that's just being a piece of trash. Seriously, it's like you conceived this hyper-testosterone, hirsute, swole brogeyman that doesn't even exist.
using gay as an insult
Women do that too. Insults are meant to call people what they don't like about themselves or what they don't want to be. Nothing intrinsically masculine about that.
using violence even when it's really not appropriate
Women do that too. That's called lack of self-control, which is antithetical to masculinity.
nothing that I can really call 'toxic femininity' being pushed at guys.
That's because it isn't being 'pushed' at guys, but is part of their lives. Toxic femininity is, just for starters:
- What drives women to overwhelmingly be the initiators of divorce, leading to single-parent households and the absence of fathers, which is the single biggest cause of most issues plaguing young men today.
- The notion that women can't be faulted for anything and should have lighter punishments
- Self-victimization to exempt oneself from having to take responsibility and appeal to the male protective instinct
- The prevalence of the inept male/goofy dad who gets kicked in the balls, scolded or told off by women and shown to never know any better in movies, TV shows and commercials.