ddickinson: [...]
Well I was very humbled by my Secret Santa, I would not feel right accepting more Christmas gifts this year after what I was gifted last Christmas. And you are a fine one to talk about not accepting gifts, have you forgotten about Fist Puncher? :-)
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I'm not the one that stated that they had started to rethink their stance.
ddickinson: [...]
That does not sound good, especially if it could take three years. I wish your friend all the best, I was tempted to say give her a big hug from me, but then that might be weird, getting a hug from someone she didn't know. :-)
Where there any must have games on the promo that you wanted but missed out on?
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It's going to be a rocky road, but I think she's fairly prepared for it. Thank you for the kind wishes, I will pass them along, as I always do, and see if she'd accept a hug too. ;-)
Is there such a thing as a must have game when one has a backlog?
ddickinson: [...]
I think what he meant was that it can often have a beneficial change to a persons outlook on life. We start to appreciate what we have, to enjoy the real things that matter more. I know that after my attack I looked at life differently, I had a better appreciation of what and who is truly important to me. It in no way takes away the hurt and suffering, but it can be a small consolation.
Of course, it can also have a negative effect, it all depends how you let the horrible parts of life effect you.
Death always splits one's life in periods of "before" and "after", exactly because of the change to one's outlook on life. Everything you say is fine, but see my reply to Stilton bellow; that's what I was referring to.
Stilton: Perspective always comes if you give it enough time and room to grow. It doesn't mean that the loss becomes any less hurtful or that the value of who is gone diminishes, but that with sufficient time and thought your understanding of the event deepens and you can place it in a context which allows the possibility of acceptance and even closure. Human beings are survivors, if they weren't we wouldn't be talking now.
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Then I must have not given it either. My father died in an accident over twenty years ago, and I've still not found a satisfying answer to "Why" he had to at that time and so young; he was perfectly healthy and had many good years ahead of him.