I think we can all agree bullying is bad and should stop, but I also think people need to be aware of bathrooms and bathtubs...

http://articles.latimes.com/2011/jun/09/news/la-heb-bathroom-injuries-20110609

Especially...

"--Women were more likely to be hurt than men."

Even bathrooms are sexist! Women have it so rough...

I like the way this poster thinks! Give him one of the hookers with all her teeth!

Yippeee!

At my last job, I kept to myself and did my job. Yet my boss and an employee figured out I was gay or bi-sexual after only a month. I'm not a "loud gay" type. I don't tell anybody my sexual orientation unless they ask. I don't make a huge deal about it at all.

When they wanted confirmation I told them yes, I'm bi. Luckily my boss and that employee were very nice people. They treated me just as they always have before they knew.

A few weeks after that, while having a quick smoke with another employee he asked me if I had a girlfriend. I told him I actually had a boyfriend, again, he wasn't an asshole, but he was pretty shocked. Apparently "I don't look like the type" which always makes me laugh when I hear that. What does the "type" look like exactly?

Point being you don't have to be loud about who you're sleeping with. People pick up on things, or you just get asked a simple question. I don't lie about my sexuality so I'm honest about it. I haven't run into anybody that gave me shit for it, but maybe that's because I'm bulky and scary looking :>

As for bullying, I experienced it early on in school, got sick of it, and finally started fighting back with force. Some detentions, suspensions and bruised faces (including mine) later and suddenly I wasn't a target anymore. It didn't have to come to that but it did. Most the people that picked on me were complete losers and drug abusers, and after I graduated I heard stories left and right of them dropping like flies. So no, not all bullies become some rich suit with 5 cars that fucks their plastic wife every night.

They call her Chew-Becca.

Mmm. I prefer my women soft and warm. Like a rug will do. :P

It really does tie the room together.

"I can feel the walls closing in..."

That's usually a gender identity thing. Only a portion of the gay population acts or behaves differently from the rest of the population.

More often than not it's just somebody that isn't particularly macho. Which is rather common these days due to all the substances that we're exposed to that reduce testosterone levels and changing social norms that are more permissive.
That's been my experience. People figure out whether or not you out yourself and whether or not you're generally gender conforming. I'm very masculine and I generally have a beard because I hate shaving and people know. They might not always know that they know, but burying something like that so nobody knows is basically impossible.

Most of the time people have been cool about it, but you never know when you're going to run into people that aren't. Hate crimes against sexual minorities are fairly unusual around here, but it does happen. I was somewhat taken aback by it at my previous employer because it's not the norm around here for anybody to give a shit about that who isn't wanting sex. We're pretty godless around here and even those that do believe in one religion or another tend not to expect everybody else to kowtow to it.

Dat mode of thought. :P

Everyone gives something away loudly, even if they are unaware of it. Especially if they're unaware. That's where the "I didn't tell anyone but they figured it out" comes from (about any topic). Not having the analytical skills to read yourself should lead you to presume others don't as well. Half the fun is finding out which ones those are and what their level is.

Not really, there's a ton of false positives and people that get discriminated on based on conceived sexual identity.

A lot of us are exactly the same as straight people except in that one facet that we don't always express. This sort of blame the victim bullshit is hardly helpful.

That comment you quoted was independent of topics like sexual identity. You can find out all sorts of interesting information about people just by what words and phrases they use or what topics they focus on. In general everyone tells their own story, told through every tiny thing they do. I don't paint things in the victim or oppressor picture. That's too tiny of a worldview for me. There are just people, problems, and how much they care for an actual analysis/answer/solution. :P

In the army a couple of guys were convinced I am gay, simply because I didn't have a girlfriend at a time (and apparently they felt I shouldn't have problem getting one if I was a hetero; hence, I must surely be gay for not having a girlfriend).

I wouldn't have otherwise really cared what they think, but they got some kind of obsession over it. Oh well, we were relocated anyway after a month or two and I didn't see those guys after that.

We have compulsory military service here (for men), and back then being gay was a valid reason to get an exemption from it. Apparently the army didn't want gay people to the ranks, feeling they would make things more complicated in the quarters.and camps.

I don't think that is valid anymore though as nowadays women can join the army too so it would be silly to have any exemptions anymore based on people's sexual orientations.

I see. I wouldn't consider that to be loudly though, most people are completely oblivious to that on a conscious basis. Most people just don't listen and if they do listen they don't hear.
That's a common one. Being a virgin past some point in your 20s is something that gets ascribed to sexual orientation and or gender identity even if it's independent of anything else.

They finally opening things up to gays in the military here a while back and now women are able to apply for anything they want in the military. It's the right thing to do, but I think they lowered some of the standards to do it, which seems questionable.